Shannon's Journal Discussion

[Shannon]

Thanks for the answers Shannon and Max55

I dont think its necessary to say it like that Shannon. I didnt understand how it looks in real life and think my question was valid. Thanks for the further elaboration.

I admit I still don't have a concrete vision of what it looks like, but I'll just wait and see.

That's because there is no concrete vision of what it looks like. Every man has his own unique expression of the alpha within him. You can say it's some sort of icon, like James Bond or Arnold Schwartzenegger or whatever, but in the end, alpha is the purest expression of a man's individual potential for being a leader. And the highest levels of alpha are leaders of themselves first, and others second (if at all).

Here's an example. I have a friend who cleans my house a few hours a month in exchange for me paying her phone bill. If she doesn't show up to do the job, I just do it. I clean my floors, wash my dishes, clean my kitchen and bathroom, dust, wash my clothes, and put them away. I can cook better than she can. I can shop with the best of them. I can be extravagant or frugal. I know how to take care of basic car maintenance. I can mow my yard if my lawn guy doesn't come. I can trim my trees, I can grow a garden. I can build a shed. In short, I can do anything I need to do to achieve my goals, whatever they are.

That is a man who can take care of himself. And that is alpha.

James Bond relies on others to do things he cannot do, not because he is incapable, but because what he is doing requires his time and attention elsewhere. Could he build his own spy gadgets? If he had the time and needed to, you bet he could. Because he has an attitude of "I can do anything I set my mind to".

Can Vin Diesel do his own laundry? You bet he can. And that's part of what makes him alpha, even though it's not why people think of him as being an alpha. But he is a leader and a can-do-er and he can handle his business.

Alpha is about being a leader. Alpha literally means "first". The leader. And to lead others you must be able to lead yourself, which means you must be able to handle yourself and your own business and needs. Which requires self mastery. True alphas have and develop self mastery.

What you're looking for is a role model. But an alpha is his own role model. He decides what he thinks of himself, and everyone else can either follow that vision or take a hike. Do I need a role model? No. I am my own role model. Partly because nobody has ever done what I am doing, and partly because no one person has all the qualities I admire and strive to achieve within myself.

I admire the concept of James Bond. I admire Arnold Schwartzenegger's drive to succeed in spite of the odds against him, even if I don't necessarily agree with his beliefs or philosophies all the time. I admire certain people in history who have achieved prominence for their wisdom, patience, kindness, lovingness and ability to make a positive difference. I admire Bill Gates his chutzpah even though I disagree with how he achieved a lot of what he achieved. And so on. But me? I am my own man, and I am my own leader, and my role model is that version of me who I am aspiring to become. The me who has achieved self mastery to a greater degree than I have, who has achieved mastery of his fears more than I have, who has achieved success that I am still trying to achieve, and so forth. I know that I am on my way to that experience and expression of my own potential. I don't want to "be like someone else", I want to be my fullest self potential. And that is an alpha trait. I am my own leader and my own role model. I am who is responsible for me, and I am who is responsible for what I choose and believe and the results I get from those beliefs and choices.

Does that explain it a little better?