03-23-2016, 11:56 AM
(03-23-2016, 08:55 AM)apollolux Wrote: I didn't realize it myself until it was too late, but early on in my own listening to ASC certain people were testing me and I felt like I failed miserably. I could probably handle them better now, but at the time I might have burned my bridges with them.
I see what you mean. Honestly, I still fail at standing up for myself and then replay the situation in my head for a day or two. However it's less intense as far as I can tell. It's incredibly uncomfortable, yet it doesn't shut me down into a complete doormat zombie.
I think something like this has it's roots way deep, almost at the survival level where the flight, fight or freeze response lies.
ASC seems to manifest a lot of situations that want to challenge that confidence, often it seems like there's not enough confidence to handle these situations. Maybe over time the gap between the confidence level and challenge level decreases so it won't feel quite as overwhelming.
