03-20-2016, 10:39 AM
Well, my question is: how would you like to act/react?
- you could tell her yourself, but you are not her boss. so all you do is advising her, not ordering her. also there is the possibility to get into stuff you do not want to be involved with.
- you could tell her supervisor/boss, he might make her work, but she still does not want to work.
- you could talk to her, try to understand her reasons for her "not working" and if you do not understand it, well be it. it is not your job to make her work and you want get something extra by making her work. it's just your ego that gets some candy.
- you could just leave it how it is and focus on yourself, be an example and not care if they follow you or not.
i'd choose 3rd or 4th option depending on your relationship to her. maybe there are other options like screaming around, throwing things and stuff, but maybe think about your ideal movie hero whoever it might be, i.e. James Bond. How would he act in this situation. And I mean act and not react. He is the one leading and doing, not the one waiting for the other person to make the first move. Also he is not the one being involved in arguments with everybody, just focused on his goals. So what goal is yours?
- you could tell her yourself, but you are not her boss. so all you do is advising her, not ordering her. also there is the possibility to get into stuff you do not want to be involved with.
- you could tell her supervisor/boss, he might make her work, but she still does not want to work.
- you could talk to her, try to understand her reasons for her "not working" and if you do not understand it, well be it. it is not your job to make her work and you want get something extra by making her work. it's just your ego that gets some candy.
- you could just leave it how it is and focus on yourself, be an example and not care if they follow you or not.
i'd choose 3rd or 4th option depending on your relationship to her. maybe there are other options like screaming around, throwing things and stuff, but maybe think about your ideal movie hero whoever it might be, i.e. James Bond. How would he act in this situation. And I mean act and not react. He is the one leading and doing, not the one waiting for the other person to make the first move. Also he is not the one being involved in arguments with everybody, just focused on his goals. So what goal is yours?
