(09-21-2018, 07:52 AM)SargeMaximus Wrote: Which? That I'm resisting because women are killjoys or are you saying women being killjoys is a belief? I can assure you it's not. I've not come across a woman yet who wasn't weird in a way that didn't kill my mood in some regard.
Hi there,
This is really nothing personal directed to you, but when I read the paragraph above the following saying popped up into my mind:
"Every once in a while it's true that the problem is other people. But, honestly, that's rare. Look around you very carefully. If everyone else is an idiot, the truth is that the problem is probably you."
Have you considered that you are causing the problem that you are talking about? Maybe girls can't relax enough around you to create the needed conditions for a mutually enjoying relationship?
On a more personal note to you I somewhat recognize myself in you, in a way that I strived to much for external results and didn't realize that I had lost touch with myself, and that was what really caused my problems. During my darker moments I forgot that life (and relationships) can actually by simple, good, enjoyable and satisfying in themselves, so I know the feeling of not finding this as a possible scenario and therefore write of that possibility for yourself (hope that make sense, I can try to clarify if not)