(08-23-2012, 12:29 PM)Shannon Wrote: Wow. With a mother like that, it's no wonder you're having a hard time.

There are two poles to all things, including motherhood. On the extreme of mothering-ness you have women who are too emotional, too clingy, too invested outside themselves (in their children) for their own self satisfaction, self worth, etc. These are the mothers who rush to the aid of their children when their children would be better served by that not happening. It's very bad for their daughters, but devastating for their sons. They destroy their sons through being too mothering, worrying too much, infecting their sons with guilt and shame and fear, all in an effort to keep them where they will feed the insecurities the mother has.

These families typically have a very weak, very emotional (and usually controlled by the mother), and/or non-present father figure. They tend to produce overweight children, and deeply neurotic ones as well in some cases. Daughters learn that to get what they want from a man, they should use guilt/shame/fear tactics, and turn into their mothers. Sons learn that they cannot express their natural masculinity without being "wrong" or "bad", and they suffer impeded personal growth, frustration, and sometimes depression. When the time comes for the kids to leave the nest, mom doesn't want that, so she uses every weapon in her arsenal to prevent it or minimize it, never understanding that she's destroying their lives in the process.

The solution? The children must understand the issues their mother has, and then recognize what she has done to affect them through those issues. They must them work on themselves to overcome those issues through personal strength and growth. They must overcome and throw away guilt, shame and fear. They must outgrow it, reject it, shed the effects, and then force their mother to deal with her fears through their own freedom. It can be done... I have seen it, and I have done it. My grandmother was like that, and my mother was trying hard to become her after she died.

It's no wonder, knowing that, that you don't cooperate with the weight loss program.

(11-03-2015, 07:42 AM)Hercules Wrote: I was reading through old posts and I saw this.

(08-23-2012, 12:29 PM)Shannon Wrote: Wow. With a mother like that, it's no wonder you're having a hard time.

There are two poles to all things, including motherhood. On the extreme of mothering-ness you have women who are too emotional, too clingy, too invested outside themselves (in their children) for their own self satisfaction, self worth, etc. These are the mothers who rush to the aid of their children when their children would be better served by that not happening. It's very bad for their daughters, but devastating for their sons. They destroy their sons through being too mothering, worrying too much, infecting their sons with guilt and shame and fear, all in an effort to keep them where they will feed the insecurities the mother has.

These families typically have a very weak, very emotional (and usually controlled by the mother), and/or non-present father figure. They tend to produce overweight children, and deeply neurotic ones as well in some cases. Daughters learn that to get what they want from a man, they should use guilt/shame/fear tactics, and turn into their mothers. Sons learn that they cannot express their natural masculinity without being "wrong" or "bad", and they suffer impeded personal growth, frustration, and sometimes depression. When the time comes for the kids to leave the nest, mom doesn't want that, so she uses every weapon in her arsenal to prevent it or minimize it, never understanding that she's destroying their lives in the process.

The solution? The children must understand the issues their mother has, and then recognize what she has done to affect them through those issues. They must them work on themselves to overcome those issues through personal strength and growth. They must overcome and throw away guilt, shame and fear. They must outgrow it, reject it, shed the effects, and then force their mother to deal with her fears through their own freedom. It can be done... I have seen it, and I have done it. My grandmother was like that, and my mother was trying hard to become her after she died.

It's no wonder, knowing that, that you don't cooperate with the weight loss program.

This is absolutely true. My mother had no father and is very clingy toward me to the point where she would try to make me angry just for me to talk to her. I suffered deeply from this and my mom used GSF all the time to control me.

Seeing all the ways that it affected me I am wondering if the mother archetype in me will be healed by using EPHRA and LTU.

(11-04-2015, 05:23 PM)FrostedFake Wrote: Yeah ephra is a long term thing. I would recommend sticking it out because it will get rid of problems you didn't even know you had. If you quit now you might as well have been doing nothing these last 15 days, in my opinion.

(11-04-2015, 06:31 PM)Hercules Wrote: Also Due to Catmans latests posts, I am going to start no fap and watch no porn forever. As a replacement behavior I will run outside for about 15 minutes each time I get the urges. Or I will do a 3 minute plank. I have realized that my orgasms have been unfulfilling and when I daydream about sex I don't get hard. Also I have to watch more and more raunchy porn to get off. Porn is thouroghly entertaining but I want a better life and more energy so I'm going to quit.

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Be able to socialize and speak to anyone with ease, tact and skill. Become a master persuader and negotiator and be able to talk my way into anybody's heart at anytime I want. The reason for this is that I have many great ideas that I want to share with the world but I don't know how to put what's in my head into words and how to communicate my ideas effectively.

Processo AM7 5 times and Charisma Subliminal to increase my social likability and staus. Learn how to communicate first by putting all ideas on paper when it first comes into my head. For the next 10 years I will study social dynamics, body launguage, communications tactics, ands wide variety of topics for me to speak on.

2. Extreme will/Mental fortitude