(02-12-2021, 10:11 AM)Darwin Wrote: Hey Shannon, 

I've taken a USLM break and started using SE because, whilst I know USLM is making root level changes  related to fear, something told me I need to work on not being motivated by an intrinsic lack of self-worth.  

Having no intrinsic self worth results in me avoiding positive events and feedback meaning I block results - since they pump me up and then I crash soon after. After a few days of SE, I broke down crying. I was able to face numerous uncomfortable facts about reality and that I was avoiding them because i fundamentally believed they remove any right to feeling good about myself. After this I had some major successes and breakthroughs which were clearly stored up from USLM.

I was blocking them because (1) the motivation for wanting them was that it would impress other people/feel self worth because of their approval  which I know is going to only result in pain, the approval will fade and it will hurt when it does; and (2) I'll be getting success and approval because of a sub, not because I fundamentally deserve it so when the sub is gone, any good is gone.

Being on SE, i can really face everything i don't like with an engaged spirit, take responsibility, be very engaged with reality and have much more trust in myself; this allows me to allow subs to work because i can trust myself to handle the benefits well and i can trust that i'm ok with or without those benefits.

I would really LOVE to use the new MLS, you may not remember it but i've been a big proponent of it on this forum.

I'd like to request though that helps to identify and be faithful to the most appropriate means of  maintaining internal self worth and self acceptance and disconnect from self worth from positive or negative external feedback.  For me this means being faithful to some values, such as being conscious, taking responsibility and being purposeful; and those mattering to me more than what any person thinks and not being dependent on the outcome of the sub for my self-worth, but it may be different for others.


When I did SE for the first time, my whole life turned and became so much healthier and more successful, then using after MLS the results i got were phenomenal. After a while the results were sabotaged when I was depending on getting praise for my cleverness and seeing my intelligence in action to feel good about myself - and I lost my way.

Then I went back to SE again and after that did USLM - again my results were great but started to go south when i was just looking for interesting and fun successes to give me self worth. 

I've been on this rollercoaster for a while so hope you can take this request seriously/see why it's quite serious to me. My intrinsic level of self worth is so limited it gets in the way even of mental function at time because ironically i don't want to deal with the pain of doing well, feeling good about myself because of it and then losing that again. It's a hard and very personal thing to admit. 

Just another thing, MLS seems to spike reward centres in my brain - literally I get excited and have dopamine highs which result in me binge eating - if there's something related to really enjoying the process of delayed gratification I think that would help with longer term sticking to learning/mental tasks and help to stay on course with health goals as well. 

Thanks

(02-12-2021, 10:52 AM)Shannon Wrote: On Self Esteem:

Your issue is that you are dealing with faulty thinking resulting from faulty beliefs.  Seeking approval and reward from others is always going to result in failure.  You need to seek those things from within yourself.  

(02-12-2021, 01:35 PM)Darwin Wrote:

(02-12-2021, 10:52 AM)Shannon Wrote: On Self Esteem:

Your issue is that you are dealing with faulty thinking resulting from faulty beliefs.  Seeking approval and reward from others is always going to result in failure.  You need to seek those things from within yourself.  

I am saying exactly that, Shannon.

Seeking approval and reward from others always HAS resulted in failure, I know that very well -  and I know no sustainably successful/happy person who ever didn't have an internal self validation, their own value system they judged themselves by and internal locus of control. 

And I WANT to seek those things from within myself. As I said, SE really supports me in nurturing my 'self' and addressing my faulty beliefs as it were. I also proactively judge myself by my own standards.


All I'm saying is that I keep needing to go back to SE because this is a core issue for me that leaves me (probably) sabotaging results. I had a violent childhood where i was consistently told in one way or another i didn't deserve to exist - so whilst i recognise the faulty thinking and beliefs i find it difficult to address those without the support of subliminals and SE seems to be great at that - it was the first taste of true self esteem I ever had. 

So if there is something in MLS that can support the practices i start to implement when I'm on SE that seem to massively improve my life across the board and reap the bonusses that subliminals yield, something to help maintain an internal locus of control then i think that would be really helpful. 

Your prerogative of course.

Quote:I wanted to ask you if there is anything related to black magic/occult stuffs or something similar you use in any of your subliminal or any products? I am asking this because I don't want to involve in any magickal stuffs because of my personal preference. Another reason this question comes to my mind is because several friends of mine reported that they are using subliminals from a certain company and that the company uses occultish stuffs in their subliminals, and they are very open about it. I mean they publicly say they do. That info brings doubt into my mind that if all the subliminals are made that way.

Although I am not very religious, I don't want to involve into anything that has little bits of magickal rituals or similar thing. That's why clearing that doubt is very important for me.

Quote:1. For some reason, all the women I like friend zone me. I confessed to some women I like and all rejected me and they said "they thought we were just friends"   Although I joined PUA world like many, and tried to solve everything logically, tried to act like an alpha (because I think I am beta, weak, immature), honestly, I couldn't. And worse, I keep attracting same kind of women who will friend zone me and create huge depression in my mind. It is like Shannon's cycle. Mine comes like every 2 year or so.

Quote:2. I believe I have kept so many emotions suppressed inside me, and tried to hide all that now they wanna come out. how do I know? Many imaginary scenes automatically play inside my head with sudden outburst of emotion. Let me give an example. My mother is very very strict. She is like alpha in my family, she even dominates my father. My father is honestly weak, beta kind. So since childhood, my mom restricted me from many things. She told me seduction and sex are very very bad, terrible sin. She kept me home while other boys socialized and played outside. She still wants me to be in complete control of her. and many other things. So, after joining PUA, I realized that she programmed me to fail today with women. I probably have deep shame, guilt towards seduction and sex, so I avoid them subconsciously. Now I have huge anger towards her. I mentally imagine fighting with her and even killing her. Huge emotion comes up too, as if its happening in reality. Maybe my emotions want to come up and get released, but I am stuck.

Quote:3. Although my mom restricted me in many ways, I secretly developed terrible porn and masturbation addiction. I can't live without masturbating 5-15 times to porn per week. I am now 25 btw. I feel really guilty after doing it. every single time. I feel very low mentally. physically it's not that of an issue. I recover within 1-2 days. But something inside me is telling that the addiction is ruining my life. Shannon told last time that I might be a very high testosterone guy like him. I can't get rid of the guilt though. And I have developed premature ejaculation. I am still virgin though. but now, it takes me 5-10 seconds to blow my load. It used to be lot longer when I was younger.

Quote:4. Last time I told my academic performance was ruining too. However, I suddenly gained confidence in my academic life and right now I am not only doing well, I am the best guy in my university. So that's one good news. I will graduate at the beginning of 2022.

Quote:I am very perfectionist type. For some reason I couldn't follow anything from any place. I didn't go full in with PUA stuffs, neither did I go full in with Shannon's advice (which was to either use free Emotional healing, or AM6 if I can afford it). I don't know what is still blocking me. I am also surprised that my academic life dramatically improved even if I did nothing. I just wanted to improve my grades so I don't fall into probation in university. I am guilty of using several other subliminal, Quantum healing, hypnosis, NLP, PSTEC, Tapping, meditation, visualization etc etc. everything. I never mixed anything with Shannon's subliminal though. Shannon prohibited it and I recalled, stayed away.

Quote:My current goals are -

1. finishing my university well (which I am doing well at the moment) and moving to a different place, because I really think I should be away from my mom for some time so I can grow freely, she still decides everything in my life right now and I am also comfortable with that

2. getting really good with women (no PUA stuffs helped me so far, I implemented little too  )
3. become more social ( I am not that bad though, I can easily stand in front of 50-100 people and present something, I am a designer, so I do it often, but I do it because I have to do it, not for fun),

4. solving my premature ejaculation issue and becoming skilled in bed too,

5. start earning money,

6. clearing my mental issues,

7. becoming health and fit (I am skinny), and stylish

8. becoming a MAN, alpha powerful man

I want to use subliminal again and I wanna do it with your stuffs. I don't know for how long will I stick to, but I will have to start first. In today's world, we have too many options and we implement nothing! I am very guilty of that.

(02-12-2021, 02:58 PM)ncbeareatingman Wrote: Shannon.... are you now working on DMSI idea you had to make it work better,implimenting that now....and #2) are you round robin-'ning DMSI,UMSv2 and the secrety thing-a-ma-thing,you'd talked about over a week ago now,as well???

IN short have you broken ground on such, undertakings & tasks?

(02-12-2021, 05:24 PM)Z-Man Wrote: Shannon, does NSFM still work if you fear rejection. Suppose you see somebody you are attracted to will you be afraid to talk to them or does the program overwrite that?

(02-13-2021, 06:03 AM)KingDavid93 Wrote: Hi @Shannon

I would like include the sleep induction aid and the awakener in my daily usage in order to more efficiently optimize my schedule

What would be the best way to include them without derailing the progress of LTU too much (I am currently on stage 4)

(02-13-2021, 12:47 PM)Frosted Wrote: Hey Shannon does the motivation module in LTU have a countermeasure for false motivation or inspiration? Its the kind of motivation that is temporary and feels good, but in the end it's just lying to yourself to feel like you're going to do something or are doing something when really you're just procrastinating and trying to feel good while doing it.