Glad to see you are doing fine.
If you beat yourself up for relapsing, you put useless focus and energy into it that leads to more relapses. So being happy is the best bet.
This Sub works. I havnt fapped since last month.
I'd like to share with you how I'm handling my own no fap initiative. It all boils down to watching your thoughts through the lens of your emotions. What do I mean by that?
I consider lust as a negative emotion, as it connotes NEEDINESS. And you know what, man, this world doesn't give the good things to the ones who NEED them. This world only gives the good things to the ones who already have them. So the one who has gets more. The rich get richer. The badass gets more loads of women. It's also the Law of Attraction at work. I hated this realization at first, but that's just how things are. Even the Bible says, "Those who have will be given more." It is truth as I observed it.
The thing is, when you masturbate or watch porn, you send out to the Universe thoughts of scarcity---thoughts of having no sex and how much you want it. And that is NEEDINESS.
Recently, I'm doing my best to catch all manifestation of neediness in my behaviour. When I'm lonely, that is NEEDINESS. When I am jealous, that is NEEDINESS. When I'm procrastinating, that is NEEDINESS. When I'm about to masturbate, that is NEEDINESS.
So I gotta be aware of my thoughts. However, the mind is a trickster. I can't possibly be consciously aware of what I'm thinking all the time, especially when I'm under strong low emotions. How could I be aware then of what's going on in my head? I have to have some sort of indicator, like a machine lamp signal that shows red when fuel is running out in the system.
When it comes to my thoughts, I realized that the best lamp indicator that signals when I'm experiencing NEEDINESS is my emotions, actions and habits. So a while ago, I caught myself touching my penis involuntarily. What could that mean? Then I remembered how I recalled that cute girl with long legs and nice ass wearing very tiny shorts two minutes ago.
Now I know what's the trigger. I took my phone, touched that app that tracks my emotions, logged my emotion (LUST) and the trigger that caused that emotion (THOUGHTS OF CUTE MAICA GIVING...). Typing that down on my phone takes effort. Now I'm aware, and I value eliminating NEEDINESS from my system, and typing that down takes effort which dissolves my attention from the LUST. This way, I managed to redirect my thoughts from NEEDINESS to no neediness. This method works for me at the moment. I just discovered it.
I'm not particularly using a sub on stopping masturbation and porn addiction, but yeah I've been a chronic addict. Let's see how long this will last till I relapse haha
(01-23-2016, 03:13 PM)alden Wrote: [ -> ]I'd like to share with you how I'm handling my own no fap initiative. It all boils down to watching your thoughts through the lens of your emotions. What do I mean by that?
I consider lust as a negative emotion, as it connotes NEEDINESS. And you know what, man, this world doesn't give the good things to the ones who NEED them. This world only gives the good things to the ones who already have them. So the one who has gets more. The rich get richer. The badass gets more loads of women. It's also the Law of Attraction at work. I hated this realization at first, but that's just how things are. Even the Bible says, "Those who have will be given more." It is truth as I observed it.
The thing is, when you masturbate or watch porn, you send out to the Universe thoughts of scarcity---thoughts of having no sex and how much you want it. And that is NEEDINESS.
Recently, I'm doing my best to catch all manifestation of neediness in my behaviour. When I'm lonely, that is NEEDINESS. When I am jealous, that is NEEDINESS. When I'm procrastinating, that is NEEDINESS. When I'm about to masturbate, that is NEEDINESS.
So I gotta be aware of my thoughts. However, the mind is a trickster. I can't possibly be consciously aware of what I'm thinking all the time, especially when I'm under strong low emotions. How could I be aware then of what's going on in my head? I have to have some sort of indicator, like a machine lamp signal that shows red when fuel is running out in the system.
When it comes to my thoughts, I realized that the best lamp indicator that signals when I'm experiencing NEEDINESS is my emotions, actions and habits. So a while ago, I caught myself touching my penis involuntarily. What could that mean? Then I remembered how I recalled that cute girl with long legs and nice ass wearing very tiny shorts two minutes ago.
Now I know what's the trigger. I took my phone, touched that app that tracks my emotions, logged my emotion (LUST) and the trigger that caused that emotion (THOUGHTS OF CUTE MAICA GIVING...). Typing that down on my phone takes effort. Now I'm aware, and I value eliminating NEEDINESS from my system, and typing that down takes effort which dissolves my attention from the LUST. This way, I managed to redirect my thoughts from NEEDINESS to no neediness. This method works for me at the moment. I just discovered it.
I'm not particularly using a sub on stopping masturbation and porn addiction, but yeah I've been a chronic addict. Let's see how long this will last till I relapse haha
You have my utmost respect.
I was always bad at monitoring my thoughts. Thats why I used subliminal .Yes I am still weak and just like u I also consider lust as a negative emotion. Kinda like a natural addiction most males are born with.
Lust is just like dust in air when it settles u see the reality...