Well...this changes things.
I, like others, had NO idea you have a girlfriend already. I also had no idea you have some religious issue. I feel like these are important pieces of the puzzle, I'm surprised they were only mentioned now.
Now, it makes WAY more sense that you masturbate. Essentially, you're being c*ckteased on a consistent basis. Having an available girl around, but for some reason, not being able to have sex with her. All of that pent up sexual energy has to go somewhere!
Just curious, is the religious thing to do with you, or with her? If it's you, you may need to weigh it against what you seem to naturally want to do and decide if it's truly right for you, and what she may want sexually too but is currently being denied. If it's her, you may have to decide if it's worth it to continue this as it's obvious there's a mismatch of ideals already. Seems like something to ponder. Also, if it's her, I know women will throw out crap like that always, but when a famous rich guy etc. wanted to sleep with them, it's amazing how much of those "rules" or "religious practises" fall by the wayside. So, it may be a way to have a man around, and not be sexual with him to keep her options open, using that as an excuse. Just being honest as I've encountered all of that before.
Now there's no mystery why you masturbate IMO. I don't feel it's necessarily an addiction either now. Unless you did this long before this current girl, I don't know. I feel it's a sex drive that's healthy and active, and having an attractive girl right in front of it, but being c*ckteased and unable to do anything about all the sexual energy. And let's say the masturbation "addiction" gets cured, then what if you can't have sex with her? Is this some thing where you need to marry her before you get to have sex? What if it turns out she isn't a virgin so she hasn't been following this religious thing? Won't you find out too late, after you've married her? Are you a virgin? Lots of new questions now but I think it's possibly no longer a case of masturbation addiction. These new facts would've been very useful early on
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Anyway, those are some thoughts, Zane. Hope things go well for you.
Well how do I put this..
I started masturbating even before I knew about sex. I thought I invented it(LOL) and didnt knew what it was called. I didn't have computer and internet at that time. My Parents were kind of religious even though they didnt follow most of the teachings but they were aware of Porn and stuff out there on internet. So there were no computer or laptop when I was young. I praise them for this,cause if Internet would have been there I would have become a chronic porn addict for sure,also I was clown of my class and was bullied by teacher and classmates as I was the only muslim in my class and many other were Hindus. So they used to mock me and call me names and sometimes complain to teachers for stuff which i didnt even do. Then 9/11 happened and they started calling me terrorist and so I was alone. In breaktime..I used to eat alone...So this was one hell of a Emotional Trauma for me..I thought no one loved me. There was this girl I like and I even dream't about her one time but my reputation in class was mess.
When I found masturbation by accident(No one taught me) I found my escape( My Pain killers).I remember before masturbation I used to watch girl and get erection but there wasnt any urge,only the urge to know her and spend time with her. Stuff like that....Masturbation all changed that.
I slowly also became addicted to NSFW image u see in newspapers and magazine and would masturbate to them.
I found my soulmate when I was in university. My sister use to tell her friends about me. Most of the time. They all wanted to meet me. But I denied to meet them. They saw my pic on whatsaap and went nuts. Everytime I would go to school to pick up my sister her friends would ask me to take off my helmet so that they can see me for real..
One of her friends fell in love with me,told her parents about me and said that she would want to marry me in future. Her mom and my mom became BFF and then they were able to know everything about me..At last she said that her daughter wants to marry me. When my mom told me about this I was SHOCKED AS HELL. I denied the relationship as first and was against it. I was like No!! No!! No!!..
She used to come and visit me along with her parents and would make tea for me and would enter my room when I was alone and i would say to her in low tone" Please get out of my room I need to study" She would smile and leave....I denied this relationship...IDK what I was scared off(Love I guess)
Then One day she messaged me on whatsaap and started talking about random stuff and things like that and we chatted for like 2 hours and then she said.." I LOVE YOU".....The moment she said this idk what happened but something clicked and then after that ..everything changed. I began to question myself and my beliefs and asked myself if this is the will of GOD?(Sorry for religious talk). Slowly and slowly I noticed that as my bond with her grew stronger. I started to loose interest in Soft-core porn and within 3 months of our relationship. I was so surprised when I would visit reddit NSFW and those naked girls I saw would make me feel sorry for them..The way I looked at them changed..I saw thru their soul. When ever any NSFW or Porn I saw by accident. I would think that they are doing this because they might have emotional problem or financial problem. No girl or women will sell or show their skin unless they have some intention or goal behind this. Maybe they dont know any other way to fullfill their emotional void and they are not even aware of this(Its all a problem in their subconscious). We do many stuff in life which rather more fueled by emotions than logical..Those girls in Porn and movies are also going thru this and these girls try to hide these emotions thru their ego(Bitchiness as people say ) but in the end...Its all same.(These are all my Opinions)....
As our relationship grew stronger and stronger. I told her that I was addicted to masturbation. She supported me,said that I can do this and overcome this addiction.I thought I would loose her after I told her about this but it was complete opposite...
I seriously dont care what her past was.If she was in relationship or not? or if shes a virgin or not. I do admit that when I first met her..I found her so attractive that I thought about doing physical stuff with her including sex...There were moments when I did everything with her except(Sex ,BJ,Oral,Anal anything which involved penis).
I saw in her eyes that she wanted me but was also scared and so was I. But I told her not to fear as I wouldn't do anything which would go against her belief and break the trust of her parents.Her parents really do trust me alot specially her mother.
I was kinda wrong when I mentioned that I was doing this cause of religion..No thats not it.
Its me..I am like this...Its something deep...
I know people will say that sex is healthy and good. Yes it is. I wont deny it..But Their are also other ways to be healthy and also no one died because of lack of sex(LoL)..Monks do Live ..
Sacrifices have to be made in order to gain something valuable..
Call me old fashioned but I am like this...I hope You guys understand..This is a completely different situation.
Sorry If You find me kinda odd...
In the end I am grateful Shannon made this Sub. I am sure I will get of out this soon.
PEACE
I dont know whats happening. But its has almost been 4 days and I hardly have any urge to fap.
Yesterday I was having huge urge but then my Mom gave me some work and I got busy in that. Then after that I took sleeping pills and went to bed. But after about 2 hours my gf messaged me and begged me to talk...
I told her its 1 am already go to sleep but she said "No please talk to me" I was like okay.
We started with random stuff and then told her that I love her so much and how I missed her...She also said many stuff. It was awesome. I also noticed that during this time my urges just faded away and I will filled with some Blissful state of mind.:angel:
I am at peace and relaxed with everything most of the time and way I deal with people...This Sub is doing an awesome job. Maybe I should Run it for 12 months
(10-21-2015, 04:48 AM)zainuu163 Wrote: [ -> ]This Sub is doing an awesome job. Maybe I should Run it for 12 months
Be careful, if you use this subs too long. You'll not be able to have an erection.
(10-21-2015, 11:46 PM)wahyu Wrote: [ -> ] (10-21-2015, 04:48 AM)zainuu163 Wrote: [ -> ]This Sub is doing an awesome job. Maybe I should Run it for 12 months
Be careful, if you use this subs too long. You'll not be able to have an erection.
HAHA...Nah man that's not gonna happen.
Infact My Balls are more fuller and and my erection are much harder.
Also Idk why but I feel so sexy.I do have urges but its so easy to control it..Damn Easy.
I cant believe that I was addicted for like 13 years years and Now with Shannon's Subs I am gonna kick this habit for good.
I mean it feels so good to control something which was controlling you for a long time..
Haha I told you that you'd beat it if you kept at it!!!! AMAZING.
Keep at it, at least for a few more months. You've had this habit a long time, you want to make sure it's gone forever.
Actually, I'm so impressed this sub worked I may give it a second look. I've been interested in it since it came out but I was curious to see reports from other users. This is fantastic news.
I'm so happy for you!! Keep going.
Hey Zainu, how is it going? I am curious and at the same time very excited to read your progress since it is going to be my next sub.
(10-27-2015, 07:47 AM)diamiteo Wrote: [ -> ]Hey Zainu, how is it going? I am curious and at the same time very excited to read your progress since it is going to be my next sub.
Its good bro. I am feeling better. But I still have a long way to go. I do relapse but every relapse is kind different,cause when I relapse I am like" Well thats weird never experienced this before"
Hi zainuu163!
I just wanted to check in and see how you are doing.
I hope all is well and the sub is making more and more of an impact, friend.
Well I guess its time for some updates:
1. I have somehow reduced skin picking. When ever I used to relapse I would get somewhat tensed and would start picking up my skin cause of anxiety or stress..It has reduced by 60%
2. From few days I am noticing that one of my friend keeps on visiting me for unknown reason and will take me outside to meet other people and visit places. This never ever happened. Guess its my subconscious manifesting stuff. ( I always avoided going outside but somehow he is forcing me to socialize and visit places).
3. Time seems to be moving too slow...I thought it was 9:30 pm but it was only 7:30pm.
4. I really like this sub cause I am kinda thirsty for it just like water(wanna listen to it daily for 8 hours)
5. I am somewhat comfortable with women now.(30%). I mean at first I used to blame them for wearing slutty cloths and would judge them but now I dont really care. Let them wear what they want it doesnt affect me anymore.. I am immune to those garbage thoughts now. Dont get me wrong,I was always taught to avoid judging people, its God's job not mine...but still I judge but now I hardly care about anyone. I fell free.Let them do what they want and I will do what I want..
I still struggle to cross Day 4 and I have no Idea when I will be able to cross. I guess this sub really needs a long run. Issues are being resolved one by one and it mainly the emotional issues..I suffer from ..
Has anyone used any addiction related sub? Just Asking
I dreamt that a girl was trying to grab my balls and I was running..But in the end she just wanted her mouse back, which I was carrying in my jeans pocket. In the end I misunderstood her...It was all.about the mouse not about grabing my balls.Weird dreams
(11-04-2015, 01:24 PM)zainuu163 Wrote: [ -> ]Has anyone used any addiction related sub? Just Asking
There is this module in BASE, Stop Using Recreational Drugs & Alcohol. For me it worked pretty conveniently. I let go of booze 2 1/2 years ago and stopped smoking cold turkey just before starting out with BASE. During BASE I let go of any residual desire I had harbored for booze. Recreational drug consumption is now nil. Until finishing my first BASE run I sometimes had sudden flares of cravings to catapult me out of reality by use of booze/drugs, so much that I'd thought the only way to deal with it is to give in to this craving. In the end it did not even happen once and I realized it for what it was: resistance.
Never experienced those cravings afterwards.
Damn!!! 2 days without a fap feels like an eternity
(11-14-2015, 07:52 AM)zainuu163 Wrote: [ -> ]Damn!!! 2 days without a fap feels like an eternity
That is good! I feel like eternity too since I last masturbated. Are you listening with the headphones/earbuds now?