Subliminal Talk

LOL yea it's a "beta" thing to do. AFAIC, what I do is my own business and nobody else. He can comment all he wants to so basically whatever he tells me or others when I'm in earshot goes in one ear and out the other. A lot of "ladies men" have quite a few haters... but a lot of people that respect him as well. One way to lose respect is to go around and bandy about how good one is at attracting / seducing women. Not wise...

Never tell stories. Just wink and/or smile. Let them decide what it means, and otherwise just ignore them. A closed mouth and a smile says volumes. However, if you ever do tell stories that aren't true, you'll be shooting yourself in the face with the ladies... they don't appreciate getting a bad reputation because you like to wag your tongue, whether what you say is true or not. It's nobody else's business, and the man who can keep a woman's privacy is a man who gets laid.

Jeff, not sure what you mean by "secret spoilers".

Yeah telling stories is a terrible idea. I know I did at times when I was younger and it always went against me.

I experience this all the time in my job, people think they need to impress me so as soon as I meet them they start to talk about fighting and how tough they are etc..

And most of them are full of crap. The last one that had heaps of big stories about 5 cops not being able to take him down, and when he goes off he is like the incredible hulk, he was found crying on the ground later in the night because he mate had enough of his crap and hit him in the guts.

So much for the incredible hulk!

Among friends is one thing, but nearly all the people doing this when I barely know them or have just met them have been full of shit!

So you don't want to be that guy, not saying you are, just giving me experience with people who do this.

-Ben

Shannon, I totally agree on that one. I read it in the book, "Everything out of her mouth is a test"...Good point on reputation. If you can keep a girl's reputation well, she's going to feel safe to be with you.

Ryan

I'm certainly not one that goes around and bandy stuff like that about. That just smacks of "qualifying oneself" and yes, it will turn around and bite one on the rear. It's genuine beta behavior. Anyways... moving on.
I'm about to close out the 4th week of stage 2. I hit a dry spell of dreams with women in them up until 3 days ago.
I'm bantering with a woman on the PB forums like CRAZY (and of course I like that! ) and I recently found out that one girl that used to work at the Memphis Wolfchase Hooters restaurant is now a Playboy model (also on that forum as well)... and I told her online in a thread that she was a good hugger. She responds by putting like a dozen smilies after my reply, lol
I will write a recap of stage 2 next Saturday when it will be my last day on 2. I have some notes typed up on my "offline" journal and will just copy and paste that into this one when that time comes. Thus far, stage 2 is far better than one. What shall stage 3 bring me? Who knows... I'm still in uncharted water so to speak.

(06-04-2011, 10:09 PM)Ryan Wrote: [ -> ]Shannon, I totally agree on that one. I read it in the book, "Everything out of her mouth is a test"...Good point on reputation. If you can keep a girl's reputation well, she's going to feel safe to be with you.

Ryan

Exactly!
Awesome book btw, Ryan!

I was trying to think of some story to say then mention just kidding at the end. I even thought about it more, and I am not a great fake story teller lol. Yeah, I see what you guys mean.

Time for a recap of stage 2. Per my notes I typed up a few days ago...

“Stage 2 continues, extends and enhances a lot of the self improvement, normalization
and foundation builoding effors of Stage 1.”
Self image continuing to improve. I don't feel 100% every day but it's a consistent increase since starting SM back in April.

“It also begins introducing new concepts that step up your development as both a skilled flirt and a man
skilled at attracting and seducing beautiful women.”
Flirting and banter getting better over all. Of course I can't develop the skills if I don't USE them, duh! One of my sticking points is bantering with strangers or the women at the apartment complex pool, gym, and so on. I'm sure the sticking point will be nullified in due time. It's a process.
If it's a new person, I tend to hold back until I get to know them a little better (that may sound like a negative belief and it may very well be one, but it's something that I've ingrained from a long way back.).
“Manifestation becomes a solid component of the program at this stage.”
More women are showing interest and wanting to be a part of my life. It tends to vary upon my mood.

“New auric enhancements are added in and woven into previous aura generation and enhancements.”
I'm sure this is talking about the vibe and presence I am putting off. Obviously it's getting better otherwise women wouldn't be showing the interest that they are currently.

“Escalation de-sensitization makes it easier to escalate a woman past talking, and into
more advanced stages, such as touch.”
Still need more work on this: I am getting touched more. Not as much as I would like but it's improving slowly but surely.

“Body language effects and eye seduction introduced here.”
I'm not noticing a lot of change in this area. I'm still having to make a conscious effort in most cases to eye game women. One change that I have noticed over a period of time is I have slowed down my walking, especially since my pre AM2010 days. I talk a bit slower. I need to speak up at times though (that's garbage programming from my youth).
“Focus on causing women to notice, become interested in, and approach you is introduced.
Slowly improving.

“Detection of, and refusal to have sex with, women who are attempting to manipulate you with sex, use you for sex, trick you into getting them pregnant or have STDs is introduced.”
I'm picky to start with so no real change here. But I am aware that a LOT of young women are trying to get pregnant to get some easy money from the government, and of course their boyfriends, etc.

“Sex drive increase begins.”
Obviously! I have extreme cases of arousal sweep over me from time to time. I really like it!
“Sexual stamina and self control work begins.” Interest in porn, even Playboy stuff, is decreasing slightly.
“Kills neediness.” Not much in a desire to badger or pester women to be with me. But there is still a desire to not be alone... in other words, I still have a want to have women over to my place for sex! It's not a powerful, debilitating want, but it's there nonetheless.

The last week, my drive has cooled off and stabilized (or that I'm just getting used to it, lol).

Now that I'm on to stage 3... I started it last night just before going to bed and had a restless night. After drifting back to sleep, I had a very racy dream (not going into details here). Since I felt ran down the whole day, it affected my energy somewhat but not too much. Me and a girl that I met through a Facebook salsa group are planning on seeing each other this Thursday. She's rather short but very friendly. We're planning on visiting a wine bar and then go for a walk later on. I'm sure things will turn out good
Yesterday at the apartment complex swimming pool, the subject of salsa came up due to the fact an ice cream truck playing salsa-esque music whizzed by so I entered a conversation between 3 women and started talking about salsa and told them I can teach the basics. Then they got the idea of hosting a pool party so I'm hoping that will pan out.
It will be a good thing to get some neighbour bonding going.

Well, stage 3 is really kicking my butt bigtime. I have restless nights... have to take melatonin in order to get a decent nights sleep. I've been in a negative mood most of the day today but I just told myself the subliminal is bringing up more junk. The date last night was quite good save for one awkward moment (not going into details). I'll call her tomorrow for a bit of chit-chat but I'm not pressured to do so. I feel very non needy which is a good thing. In fact, I feel very indifferent.
I had a semi-cougar blonde eye me up in a grocery store last night when my date wasn't looking. It was obvious that she was looking right at me and smiling and I was thinking... ugh! Why now?!
And today at the hospital, one woman kept looking at me with a dirty sexual look while I was working at the newlife center and I was thinking, "geez girl, you want another one of those [babies]?" (she was carrying a baby in a carrier).
Also, I'm contemplating writing my "story" and reframing it a-la Brent Smith. My subconscious and / or ego is blocking me to do so but it's something that I really need to do in order to move forward.

awkward moments are good for learning

man stage three sounds brutal, can't wait.(as i cry in my journal when im there )

Is the woman who was giving you dirty sexual looks, good enough for a steamy cleaning closet break? None the less sounds awesome that your getting results.

The story thing i could never visualize very well what it would be like to have the life i want. Maybe your story will be a big Eureka moment for you this stage?

That's what I do, Ron. I wrote down a very very basic story in a notebook and I visualize every morning and sometimes at night. I focus on problem areas and imagine myself doing different things in those scenario's, feeling' the emotions tied to it fully. For instance, if there's something really bold that I'm afraid to say then I imagine myself saying it over and over, feeling my heart race as if it is actually happening. If I'm comfortable with it, then I know I'm not really imagining it well, right? It works very well too.

Quote: Is the woman who was giving you dirty sexual looks, good enough for a steamy cleaning closet break? Wink None the less sounds awesome that your getting results.

Not really, lol! But it shows that I am getting results.

Quote: The story thing i could never visualize very well what it would be like to have the life i want. Maybe your story will be a big Eureka moment for you this stage?

I'm sure it will if I do it consistently... which is one of my annoying sticking points.

Ronnie those awkward dates can be beneficial. Obviously, you didn't mention what was awkward about it...but hey you learn from it and the awkward ones really build your confidence knowing you can handle any situation in dating. You're off to a start, now it's time you start taking out all those salsa women! =)