ronatello's journal

[ronatello]

I'm currently using the Absolute Self Confidence and Aura of Sexiness subs. I may try the Woman magnet sub once getting back from my San Diego trip.

Some info about me:
I got on a self improvement kick back in late September, 2008. I realized that my life was slipping away so I had to do something. My first foray into self improvement involved (briefly) David Deangelo's DYD ebook and then his advanced dating DVD set (which I sold once going to Cory Skyy's product). I started using Cory's program in early November, 2008. What was interesting about that time was I had a girl that was interested in me (she since drifted away but that's okay! ) but I had no idea why I attracted her in the first place (but I know now... I wasn't NEEDY about it back then, but my mindset was bunk, lol)
Progress was slow but sure using the MM method. Granted, it could have been quicker if I would force myself to visualize what I really wanted and be consistent with it (my problem was about consistency... I do the visualizations for a couple of days then drop it.). I had some 20+ years of negative garbage to clear out. I told myself that it is a process and it won't go away overnight.
I've dabbled with the subliminal (well the aura one) since April I believe.
Since I have been made aware that some of the subliminal may clash with some of the affirmations I was using, I have stopped using the traditional affirmations as an experiment but now use the subliminal(s) exclusively.
I still like to gaze at myself at the mirror and all that crazy stuff .
Anyhow, here are the results since stopping the affirmations and going to the subliminal:
Crazy dreams and starting to dream MORE about women. Here is the first one that happened 3 nights ago which was triggered what happened at a nightclub the same night:
I was dancing at the same club and this girl that I know came up and started rubbing her butt on mine as she danced. The girl in question in real life said she doesn't like to dance since she gets easily embarrassed. My dream said otherwise! .
At the club, I didn't get my butt rubbed by another butt but I witnessed it happening and one girl actually backed her booty up to me at one point! lol
The following night's dream, I was stripping at some party (now that was interesting).
Last night's dream, I was at some wedding or some party... I dunno but I was busy hugging women... including some woman that looked a lot like Cindy Crawford... but with bigger boobs.

I've also noticed that I feel less "needy" about attention from women. The bad part of the self improvement process is that once I was made aware about the whole thing, it made me rather needy for women to play the eye game with me. It's like I was looking for validation from the affirmations despite the fact I was consciously telling myself to STOP looking for it.

How do I feel now since stopping the affirmations and using the subs? Actually, my mood has gotten better. I feel less needy and actually I feel less anxious about getting out and mixing it up. I was showing my pics to a tanning salon worker and while she was looking at them, a tall, cute blonde entered and I turned around, hit eyes, said something about showing my b-day pics to the worker and she was all smiley and stuff. Was I needing her attention? Nope.

Since the neediness is falling by the wayside, I'm actually getting more women looking and in some cases, more physical contact from them now than in the past.
I do realize that I still have more self improvement to go through. I will continue on and enjoy the journey one day at a time.
I liked the way Ryan described the effects of the affirmations and I feel a similar thing: I do them, feel great and then the effect vanishes... like the effects of a drug, for example.
I also say that the more positive beliefs you have about a particular thing and do the affirmation on it, the shorter it takes.
I'm not knocking affirmations or anyone's method though. Each method has it's strengths and weaknesses.

So much for keeping this brief!

[Shannon]

Affirmations are fine, when used properly and phrased properly. In fact, phrased properly, they can be put to very powerful use if you know how. But they must be phrased properly, or you can do as much damage as anything else.

Welcome aboard!

[John.E]

Welcome bro. You're gonna like this place... its awesome

[Clamshell]

Hi Ronatello, glad to see you are on this forum, too. I was also posting on Cory's forum, but under a different name.

[Ryan]

Rinaldo, glad to see you on here! I wasn't aware you stopped doing your affirmations, that's very drastic for someone who has been doing them for so long but I'm glad to see the subliminal hasn't once affected your success. I've noticed that my success came from doing Aura of Sexiness most as opposed to affirmations.

[ronatello]

Rinaldo, glad to see you on here! I wasn't aware you stopped doing your affirmations, that's very drastic for someone who has been doing them for so long but I'm glad to see the subliminal hasn't once affected your success. I've noticed that my success came from doing Aura of Sexiness most as opposed to affirmations.

I've stopped them just as an experiment to see what would happen. I've actually had an increase in response from women this last week compared to times past. The funny thing is that my neediness has also decreased significantly since stopping the affirmations. As much as I have tried to disconnect from the affirmation "high", I was still kinda sorta looking for validation which is NOT a good thing. Ever. But now, I feel more "normal" for lack of a better word and now, I'm getting an increase of response from women. I kept locking eyes with a new waitress (she had incredibly beautiful eyes!!) and I told her that she had pretty eyes. I could barely see them since she had them squinted down so much but it looked sexy nonetheless. She's a great hugger too!
As for the subs I'm using, I'm using the confidence one along with the aura of sexiness sub.
I'm watching your progress with Woman Magnet with great interest.

Also I have a theory (which may be flawed but oh well), that if you overdo affirmations, your brain will "shut down" and refuse further input until it can process what has been fed to it. That also may be what's happening with me as well.
But the reality is, my mood has been better as of recently and neediness has been greatly reduced.
Those out there that have a better understanding on what's going on with the subconscious and it's inner workings will probably explain this better than me.

[Shannon]

I'd have to say that my theory is that conscious affirmations often lead to conscious dependence on those affirmations for security, and when that happens, the security response tends to interfere with the affirmations. Your brain can (and does) process a hell of a lot more than that with ease.

[ronatello]

I'd have to say that my theory is that conscious affirmations often lead to conscious dependence on those affirmations for security, and when that happens, the security response tends to interfere with the affirmations. Your brain can (and does) process a hell of a lot more than that with ease.

That's my problem in a nutshell. I do the affirmations and attempt to disengage from them. As much as I tried to not to attach an outcome to the affirmations, I just couldn't do so at 100%. Like Ryan here and a few others here, I am still going through negative patches but I remind myself that it will pass and correct myself in the process. I still have wacky dreams too but I reckon that is the subliminal working on the subconscious.
Cory once said that the subconscious mind is more powerful than any computer on the planet (the most powerful computer w/o an operating system is just a hunk of iron and is only as powerful as it is programed to do a certain thing).

As far as progress is going, I'm still making progress. Yesterday, I had a friendly chat with the girl that cut my hair, telling her about my escapades and whatnot and telling her about my new nickname that another girl gave me, "Rice a Ronnie". She thought that was funny and she told me she will call me that for now on. lol
I'm tending to be more open around people now than ever before, due to the confidence sub and also taking action: going out and mixing it up and also talking to more people at work (I work at a medium sized hospital). My San Diego trip is coming up quickly so there will be lots of ops to talk to new people. I've gained a lot of knowledge since last year at this time and will continue to do so.
One thing that I have noticed with the subs, and also getting out, is that there is an increasing desire to go out more often and mix it up.

[Shannon]

That increased desire to go socialize is part of the goal.

The subconscious mind is far beyond amazing. What secrets I have been able to discover strongly suggest that there are two levels of subconscious, which I liken to the sub- and superconscious awarenesses. One is limited to the individual, and one appears to be a sort of universal awareness that we all have access to - and have access to everyone else's knowledge and memories and such through it!

It's hard to prove a lot of these things though. Still, fascinating stuff.

[ronatello]

Another thing that I have noticed that the desire to look at porn (even the tame-ish Playboy stuff) has dropped by the wayside. It's like there is a block now in place that deters me from wanting to look at it... it has become severely dis-interesting to me. Perhaps there is a certain affirmation in the aura script that is causing me to not look at it? Anyways, I'm glad since it's nothing but a time / life waster, IMHO. lol
Aside from that,
I had a dream (rather crazy but crazy good) with me and a Hooters girl interacting and kissing one another. I've been having wacky dreams every night or almost every night since listening to the ultrasonic version of ASC and Aura every night.
@ Shannon: I've been tempted to get the "Become irresistibly attracted to women" sub and mix that with the aura sub (like put both on a CD and loop them ABABAB etc.). Would they pair nicely together?

[Ryan]

I've heard those two subliminals do great things together! That's funny man, I'm having extremely weird dreams too. I love sleeping now

[Shannon]

Another thing that I have noticed that the desire to look at porn (even the tame-ish Playboy stuff) has dropped by the wayside. It's like there is a block now in place that deters me from wanting to look at it... it has become severely dis-interesting to me. Perhaps there is a certain affirmation in the aura script that is causing me to not look at it? Anyways, I'm glad since it's nothing but a time / life waster, IMHO. lol
Aside from that,
I had a dream (rather crazy but crazy good) with me and a Hooters girl interacting and kissing one another. I've been having wacky dreams every night or almost every night since listening to the ultrasonic version of ASC and Aura every night.
@ Shannon: I've been tempted to get the "Become irresistibly attracted to women" sub and mix that with the aura sub (like put both on a CD and loop them ABABAB etc.). Would they pair nicely together?

They can work well together, yes, but require somewhat longer to manifest fully when used together.

[ronatello]

I've been using Aura for a couple of months now. I've added the Absolute Self Confidence sub back in late April / early May... don't know exactly when but the Aura script came first. Anyways, I feel a lot bolder now than in times past. I still have some off days scattered here and there. I tend to say things that causes some people to become wide-eyed at me which I think is funny.
I've always been off-beat which now I cherish instead of suppress it. Most of my FB friends know about the often times off-beat status updates I post. Why stomp down what I really want to say when I don't have to? I'm also working on being much more direct now than in the past.

[Shannon]

being true to oneself, regardless of what others think, is a very important thing, and it is a great way to polarize yourself socially - which is also important. If everybody likes you, then you aren't letting your inner light shine brightly enough, because no way in hell will everyone like any one person on earth.

Have you noticed that the most beloved people tend to also be the ones who have the most polar response from people? The more you are true to yourself, the more people can decide you do or do not fit their ideas of whom they wish to spend time with. Those who are not compatible will fall away and disperse, and those who admire you will be magnetically and almost magically attracted to you.

It's like the old business saying: 80% of the sales come from 20% of the customers. Focus on that 20% and let the rest go. Likewise, 80% of your attention will come from the 20% who really align with you if you let your inner light shine and show people who and what you really are. Since the other 80% would be time wasters, you can safely ignore them.

I'm not saying you want to go so far that you have fanatic followers and people sending you death threats of course, but being yourself is how you are going to genuinely succeed at finding happiness with the ladies.