12-09-2011, 08:28 PM
Quote:Well. Tony is a different exception, wouldn't you agree? I mean someone with no experience and waiting to get such experience now...that can be difficult. If you think about it, being younger and loosing your virginity isn't as difficult as it could be at an older age, like I'd imagine. I mean, mostly because women start playing their games and etc, things get more complicated.
Nah, I still don't agree. I feel that it applies to him. I know as a man with desires, that naturally you do want sex.. and trying to deny that isn't doing any good.
Have you been studying language patterns Ryan? I can identify it straight away as i've come across so much of it. I don't use it as much anymore, atleast not on purpose that i'm aware of.
I remember working on them doing security at one stage, it felt quite uncomfortable but it seemed to work and when I was doing it a guy who told me before that I needed to improve with talking to people told me "wow your getting good at this".
But I found doing too much NLP made me seem strange, but the thing is, having the confidence to back it up is the important thing, and I believe you have that.
Any try it for dirty talk, just leading her imagination and describing things. The secret is you have to feel it yourself first, and only then can you explain it in a way that will effect her.
Anyway Tony, have you ever thought that the best way to get comfortable with sex is having sex? It is definately the best way, yes changing your beliefs is great, but actually having sex is the most important way of getting comfortable with it.
I know this, because it is how I got comfortable with it myself. And I notice that when i'm having it regularly is when i'm most comfortable with it, it's usually when I haven't for a while that it takes some warming up.
Even after having it once, it will make all the difference.
Interesting, seeing your language Ryan made me aware that I do use some of this stuff without realizing. It's funny how you become aware of stuff that you weren't before.
-Ben
