07-01-2011, 09:00 AM
I might be able to help make this clearer...
Women love to be a role or should I say be a part in a mans life (if he do have a life outside than her). That's why they like the persons with something bigger than her, whether be problems, goals etc.
They want to feel they can use their feminine abilities to rescue the male with his goals or problems, so they can feel they are of use to something (their eternal beauty of love and nurture). The risk they take by going into that is a broken heart and that's why, I think, that women are so careful about it because a broken heart is the most painful thing to a woman (in my experience).
Just like we males always want to prove to ourselves that we got what it takes and sometimes we also wanna encourage other males to see that they got what it takes...
Read any romance novels and there's evidence everywhere.
Hero + heroine and an adventure.
Were you faking it?
Were you trying too hard?
Were you doubting?
You can't control your surroundings but yourself. Go with the flow but be honest and clear, if not.. what do you expect?
What I see everywhere here (in this big city where I am right now), is that guys try to be cool and try to look cool or alpha or whatever you wanna call it everywhere but it's so obvious that they don't own it.
I was once doing nice stuff often on my own will but I was often in the moment too so people wouldn't ask me to do things often. Then I got into the community and being Alpha was mentioned and I stopped doing things for anyone. I was being a total a** about it and I also lost friends and had a harder time to connect with people at all. Old people on busses, stops, waiting areas, I wouldn't offer my seat to anymore. I wouldn't smile to people at all unless I knew them.
Now I have fun.. do some a**hole like things but I also do nice things, like holding the door for the ladies, leading the lady with my hand on her back from time to time, carry something bigger for her i.e. luggage. Take her hand, etc.. but! I make it on my terms.
It isn't just about being Hank Moody even though I love the way he put things with the ladies
- LM
Women love to be a role or should I say be a part in a mans life (if he do have a life outside than her). That's why they like the persons with something bigger than her, whether be problems, goals etc.
They want to feel they can use their feminine abilities to rescue the male with his goals or problems, so they can feel they are of use to something (their eternal beauty of love and nurture). The risk they take by going into that is a broken heart and that's why, I think, that women are so careful about it because a broken heart is the most painful thing to a woman (in my experience).
Just like we males always want to prove to ourselves that we got what it takes and sometimes we also wanna encourage other males to see that they got what it takes...
Read any romance novels and there's evidence everywhere.
Hero + heroine and an adventure.
Quote:I felt like after all the work i had done over the years on bettering my self and being the best me i can be with Alpha Male traits. i felt like none of it stuck and that i was still just a "nice guy".
Were you faking it?
Were you trying too hard?
Were you doubting?
You can't control your surroundings but yourself. Go with the flow but be honest and clear, if not.. what do you expect?
What I see everywhere here (in this big city where I am right now), is that guys try to be cool and try to look cool or alpha or whatever you wanna call it everywhere but it's so obvious that they don't own it.
I was once doing nice stuff often on my own will but I was often in the moment too so people wouldn't ask me to do things often. Then I got into the community and being Alpha was mentioned and I stopped doing things for anyone. I was being a total a** about it and I also lost friends and had a harder time to connect with people at all. Old people on busses, stops, waiting areas, I wouldn't offer my seat to anymore. I wouldn't smile to people at all unless I knew them.
Now I have fun.. do some a**hole like things but I also do nice things, like holding the door for the ladies, leading the lady with my hand on her back from time to time, carry something bigger for her i.e. luggage. Take her hand, etc.. but! I make it on my terms.
It isn't just about being Hank Moody even though I love the way he put things with the ladies
- LM
1. Do whatever you want.. risk whatever your gut tells you because.. you know you have good intentions.
2. Pressure forms the man.
3. Clarity gives space for better decisions.
