Turning Over A New Leaf - DMSI V3.3.1-D

[Shannon]

I can't say I've noticed much of the sexual attraction stuff. If it's there, it's been too slight to notice, or they haven't been willing to act on it for whatever reason. Nice "vibe" is there and all, but it still feels like YOU have to do the driving for the interaction or nothing happens. I admit I've had no dates, make outs, sex yet. It still feels like somewhat of an invisible wall in front of me and girls/sex for now, there just doesn't seem to be any actual attraction I don't think. I have a ways to go yet I guess, more internal work mixed with a lot more focus on making girls able to initiate and escalate like the design goal is desiring them to. That still seems to be a herculean task that I honestly admit I have doubts about. I guess I'm just not able to believe some of the really gorgeous girls I know would be able to find themselves deeply sexually attracted to me now and pursue me aggressively to have sex with them. Even when they have a sea of options chasing them, I don't see why they would bother chasing ME. And that they'd be attracted to me based off of how attractive I find them, I still don't know how that part of the sub is going to work. That they find me hot, because I find them hot, and it's the same level of attraction returned to you somehow.

I saw some things in your post when you made it that I wanted to address, as they seemed to represent misunderstanding, but of course got distracted with everything else I have to do recently.  So let's make a quick post here.

You apparently keep hiding behind this same faulty thinking:

I'm just not able to believe some of the really gorgeous girls I know would be able to find themselves deeply sexually attracted to me now and pursue me aggressively to have sex with them.

The truth is, you are able to believe whatever you choose to believe.  This is apparently why you aren't executing yet: you choose to believe things like this.  These beliefs are self limiting beliefs, and they result in you refusing to execute because there is apparently a cognitive dissonance that you have between those beliefs and the goals of DMSI.  

Women decide what they think of you based on what you tell them to think of you.  You keep insisting on telling them, with the body language, choices, actions and reactions that would naturally result from such limiting beliefs, that you aren't qualified to be their choice.  They will be glad to believe you and rule you out if you self disqualify, because that is something only someone of low social value and self esteem/self confidence would do.  High value women don't have time for that.  They have too many guys interested already, so they naturally filter out all but the potentially high value guys.  You know this.  And unless you're a really good troll and you're just trolling us on this whole virginity/DMSI thing, the problem still remains that you have yourself locked in failure based thinking, which is why you are failing.

This can - as far as I can see - only be the result of one of the following options:

A) You genuinely believe these things that limit you, because you also believe that they keep you safe from ever experiencing what traumatized you in the past, and because of the amount of fear and trauma, coupled with your incredibly rigid personality, you refuse to allow those limiting beliefs to change to beliefs that would allow you to execute DMSI and achieve the goals of the program.

B) You are at some level convinced that you are in some sort of contest or battle of wills with me and the only way to win is to refuse to execute.  

C) You're just trolling us all massively and you really are getting results from DMSI and/or are not a virgin.  If this is the case, let me congratulate you on being exceptionally skilled at it.

D) Some combination of these three.

Presuming you believe you're telling the truth, and you really are having this experience and you aren't trolling us, you need to realize the following facts:

1. You cannot decide for anyone else what they think of you.  Only they can do that.  
2. You don't have the right to decide for her if she thinks you are attractive or not.
3. You can intentionally disqualify yourself in her eyes, and that, as far as I can tell, is exactly what you keep doing - on purpose.
4. You keep trying to prevent DMSI from working by being locked in the following limiting thinking and beliefs:

• I'm just not able to believe some of the really gorgeous girls I know would be able to find themselves deeply sexually attracted to me now and pursue me aggressively to have sex with them.
  
• If I trust a woman, I will get hurt/burned/accused of rape/etc.
  
• If I allow any woman to be (sexually and/or romantically) attracted to me, she will hurt/burn/accused me of rape/etc.
  
• I am not good enough to get any woman I really find attractive to have sex and/or a relationship with me.
  
• It happened this way/was true in the past, so it must happen this way/be true in the future.
  
• If I convince myself that I am incapable of doing what is necessary to achieve these goals, I can hide forever from executing, achieving them and the scary things I imagine would result.
  
• All I have to do to stay safe is believe the things that prevent me from achieving the goals of this program/having sex/having a relationship/etc.
  
• I would rather have no sex/relationship because it keeps me safe/proves I have a stronger will than Shannon can influence/whatever.
  

I have spent a lot of time and effort trying to unlock your beliefs and free you from them, but nothing so far has worked.  (Unless you're just trolling the hell out of us, and really, it is working.)  The fact is, I do know how to force you, yes, even you, to execute.  However, that would involve taking away your freedom of choice, which I will never do.  So you'd better think about what I have said here, and hope that I find a way to persuade you with one of the forthcoming versions of DMSI, because "they ain't much mo' comin'".

Ultimately, it boils down to two things:

1.  Whatever you most and genuinely want, you will experience.
2. Whatever you most and genuinely believe, you will experience.

If you manage to resist DMSI all the way through 3.4, you will have what?  Personally, I landed a lifelong relationship with a great woman who has/is everything I want, by executing, back at v3.1.  I don't need DMSI anymore.  And I'm not the only one who can say that.  What will you have if you refuse to execute even 3.4?  The ability to say DMSI didn't work for you?  Is that some sort of badge of honor for you, some sort of "win"?  If it is, and even 3.4 doesn't get you going, enjoy your "win".  Is it the ability to feel safe from all those evil females out there, whom you believe to all be out to get you?  If so, enjoy your porn and your self-made mental prison.

When you want the goals of DMSI more than you want what you have, you'll let go of those beliefs that limit you to what you have, and allow the rest to happen.  So far all that mental prison of self limiting beliefs you lock yourself up with seems to have gotten you is... nothing.  Literally.