The Modern Libertine's diary

[Cortez]

That pretty much sums it up, Shannon. You hit the nail on the head.

FunkyMonkey, the strongest guys always have lot's of options and really wouldn't care if they didn't. It's not a technique, it's a self sustaining mindset and way of being. That said, I am more sexual than most guys. I just express in a way that women actually enjoy.

[RainbowAbyss]

Well said Cortez,
it seems the higher level of non-neediness and internal fulfillment the more 'desiring' and or sexual a guy can be right off the bat. Woman want to be desired-but mostly from a high status internally fulfilled man with choice. To woman, when a guy like that engages them, on some primal level its almost like they know there getting picked out of many other options.
I think being uninterested in woman is a symptom of the cause of WHY woman would be attracted to men who are like that, certainly not the cause itself. The cause is that that man is less invested in that woman than she is in him, he is also on no level-down to the subtlest 'micro' behavior-seeking her approval and looking for her permission or validation-that is incredibly attractive quality-because it shows strength, independence, congruence, and realness-its instantly trust-able. one can be totally internally fulfilled in the way Shannon and Cortez spoke about and still display varying levels of interest. In my experience either a tentative interest in a playful way or being overtly desiring of her both seem to be the natural extensions of that internal freedom that bridge the gap very well-also in my experience being being uninterested in woman when engaging them is and of itself is only attractive to woman who seek validation and woman who are used to being fawned over there whole lives. Continued aloofness and active disinterest with a quality woman will probably start to put her off fairly quickly.

[RainbowAbyss]

btw Cortez 220 and lean
would be pretty insane-
what kind of lifting are you doing?

[Cortez]

It wouldn't be that insane. I'm 6'5, so it wouldn't be as outrageous as a shorter dude with that kind of weight. I do a routine of my own. It's a combination of weight lifting and body weight exercises and I eat a ton of protein throughout the day.

[Sean]

An easy program to follow, for those who are starting weightlifting, is Stronglifts.

[Shannon]

Rainbow extended what was being said quite nicely. Interest coming from a position of self sustenance is going to be very attractive to most women, but of course too much disinterest is going to turn off a high value woman quickly as well.

[Cortez]

Shannon- Yep, that's where the "exuding a sexual aura" thing helps. Which your products definitely help with.

Sean- My favorite/ the lift I dread the most is the deadlift.

[Sean]

The Deadlift is my favorite gym girlfriend! She's fickle: some days are easy, and other days are gnarly, bitchy, and involve a lot of yelling. But at the end of it all, we get along well together.

I hate hate hate the Press. It's completely unforgiving of any form deviations, and I don't have a good coach to help me stay strict.

[RainbowAbyss]

The Deadlift is my favorite gym girlfriend! She's fickle: some days are easy, and other days are gnarly, bitchy, and involve a lot of yelling. But at the end of it all, we get along well together.

I hate hate hate the Press. It's completely unforgiving of any form deviations, and I don't have a good coach to help me stay strict.

she's a beauty but she's pretty heavy so I'm a little embarrassed to bring her out in public-she also scrapes my shins alot-

you-tube is a great coach-just draw a dot on your hand or forearm to remind you of whatever pointers apply to you to staying strict-handstand push ups against a wall will blow your shoulders up and will make shoulder pressing much easier, there alot of lot of fun as well

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SAXPJ3PfdyY

and cause I find this dude hilarious and ridiculous

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PpN98L1XL...ure=fvwrel

[Cortez]

I love hand stand push ups. In way can I do them the way that does, lol. That's pretty impressive.


I'm doing Absolute Self Confidence 5G now since the 7th. So far I've had a little bit of the new sub euphoria, but this is a very natural feeling sub. I see now how 5G is supposed to seem more like you have always been that way instead of it being obvious that the sub is changing you. We'll see how deep the rabbit hole goes.

Also, the 5G seems to sound different. In the past I have always been able to hear the ultrasonic subs, but this one is a little more silent overall and it just sounds slightly different than the usual screeching of all the other subs. I can't quite put my finger on it.

[Shannon]

Cotez, meet Naturalizer.

[Benjamin]

Interesting. I believe AM 5.0 has the naturalizer too Shannon?

It would make sense the whole thing i'm having of "something is different but I don't know what it is exactly".

-Ben

[Shannon]

AM does make use of the Naturalizer, yes.

[FunkeyMonkey]

Perhaps I can shed some light. Being uninterested in women is a state in which a man is so self sufficient that his needs are being provided for internally. He does not need women, and his drive to reproduce is under his conscious control. He is, first and foremost, in complete (or at least very high levels of) control of himself.

If you have never experienced this before, it will be hard to understand, or see as a "value add", but I'll try to explain. You and I and all males have a deep, innate urge to reproduce our genes. It's a constant push, and you become used to it. Over time, it becomes normal. You don't think of it as "that monkey on your back" because that monkey seems to BE your back, metaphorically speaking.

But when suddenly you are not being driven to find a woman, when you are happy with your own company, when you can say no to an offer of sex because something about it - or her - displeases you... when you no longer are a slave to your genetic animal drive to reproduce... it is a very freeing experience. It is a freedom that very few men ever experience.

And that freedom is in itself enjoyable, but the real value add is that when you achieve that freedom, women see that you are now displaying the actions, attitudes and other signals that mark you as a leader, a man who has high enough value that he doesn't need women, and therefore a man who has options. Such a man is unusual at best, and probably pretty rare more realistically, but such a man also is what her genes are telling her she wants in a man more than anything else: the strong, self sufficient leader. The man who can protect, provide, and control. The alpha male. The man who has the best genes and the best chance of allowing her to reproduce hers successfully.

Being uninterested in women, ironically, is the best way to get them. And it allows the man the freedom to do other things with his life than spend it trying to get them, too. It's a win win for everyone.

And when a man has that attitude, it's going to take a high quality woman to interest him, and he therefore will naturally attract and end up with a good mate.

What's not a value add here?

Hey Guys,
Sorry for the delay in responding. I get crazy busy during the week sometimes.

I appreciate the thoughtful responses (Shannon, Cortez, Tiesto, RainbowAbyss).

I agree that a man being completely free to say “no” to a woman, because she displeases him or is simply not attractive to him, is a freedom. I also agree that when a man is fully complete within himself and happy with himself, this is also a great place to be and emotionally healthy.

In addition, I also agree that a man who is uninterested, self-sufficient, aloof, or comes across as someone who is happy with himself, is attractive to women.

Here is where I diverge.

When a man has all of the above qualities but is not flexible enough to take action, talk to a woman, feel desire, feel feelings, lead a woman, or be warm with a woman in a way that facilitates a meaningful connection with a woman, he is essentially nothing more than an island and all of the aforementioned qualities, that we‘ve summed up as "uninterested," become Absolutely Valueless.

-- Because --

I would argue that there is no such thing as a man who has such high value that he doesn't need a woman. In fact, I would argue, that science will prove, without a shadow of doubt, that such a thing does not exist on this planet.

Men need women and women need men. That's a fact. Any attempt to reverse that natural law will end in misery, neurosis and a distorted leaking of this natural desire.

It’s Natural Law

If Natural Law is not respected, Natural Law with smack said guy up the head like a BEEEOTCH. Period.

So what I'm saying is, being uninterested in women, on to itself, devoid of the flexibility to temporarily move out of that place, in a confident, warm, and life affirming manner, has no value add.

An existing danger is that it can be an easy place to hide for a man because it feels powerful (in the short run) but if a man gets stuck there, he is a Lonely, Rigid, Island -- who feels powerful.