01-09-2012, 03:10 AM
Spiral, if you don't mind my asking, what is it exactly that you are wanting? From the set and from life right now?
In terms of woman, the biggest way to get over fear of anything with them is staying focused on that part of you that is driven to get sexual with them, even if that means risking being creepy, even if you 'fail' I think one 'humiliating' experience for you would set you free for life...
The only way you get better at bringing woman into your life, SM or no SM, is by putting yourself in places that you enjoy, or at least can tolerate, and the woman you enjoy are there as well...then you just got to GO FOR IT...over and over again. Woman can and will come into your life more naturally but in my experience the more comfortable you are going for woman the more comfortable they are going for you. I would recommend night life for you because you can go full out and have a clean slate in the morning...as long as you don't get anyone pregnant
I recommend you get the ebook 4 elements of game by Rob Judge-I am NOT a fan of community products anymore but this book is amazing especially for someone who is already has what it takes and just needs some direction. Its the pure reality on meeting woman and dating them.
I think you'r like a bamboo shoot that spends years 'looking' like it is not growing from the outside and then boom, in a week, it grown like 10 feet.
For me, at the end of the day life is about two things..Loving what Is more and more, and getting in touch with desire/intention about what I really want in life and focus on what it takes to get there. The two are a feedback loop that creates a positive Spiral...pun cheezily intended
In terms of woman, the biggest way to get over fear of anything with them is staying focused on that part of you that is driven to get sexual with them, even if that means risking being creepy, even if you 'fail' I think one 'humiliating' experience for you would set you free for life...
The only way you get better at bringing woman into your life, SM or no SM, is by putting yourself in places that you enjoy, or at least can tolerate, and the woman you enjoy are there as well...then you just got to GO FOR IT...over and over again. Woman can and will come into your life more naturally but in my experience the more comfortable you are going for woman the more comfortable they are going for you. I would recommend night life for you because you can go full out and have a clean slate in the morning...as long as you don't get anyone pregnant
I recommend you get the ebook 4 elements of game by Rob Judge-I am NOT a fan of community products anymore but this book is amazing especially for someone who is already has what it takes and just needs some direction. Its the pure reality on meeting woman and dating them.
I think you'r like a bamboo shoot that spends years 'looking' like it is not growing from the outside and then boom, in a week, it grown like 10 feet.
For me, at the end of the day life is about two things..Loving what Is more and more, and getting in touch with desire/intention about what I really want in life and focus on what it takes to get there. The two are a feedback loop that creates a positive Spiral...pun cheezily intended
1. There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness.
2. A thinker sees his own actions as experiments and questions... Success and failure are for him answers above all.
3. I would not know what the spirit of a philosopher might wish more then to be than a good dancer.-F.N.
2. A thinker sees his own actions as experiments and questions... Success and failure are for him answers above all.
3. I would not know what the spirit of a philosopher might wish more then to be than a good dancer.-F.N.
