Spiral's Sex Magnet 2011 journal

[Patti]

Patti, I was not as far as I'm concerned. But what I don't know is if she was getting that sort of vibe from me trying to impress her. I was def. thinking about what she was thinking and that's still a bad habit of mine. I was just doing what I thought I should have done by continuing the interaction and somehow escalating things in a way that would reveal my intentions in some way while on the dance floor. Then afterwards I would take her aside and chat with her more and be honest with what my intentions are up front.

Btw, LionMonkey I could try getting her attention verbally next time.

Yes, you did put a lot of thought into that! And in all honesty, you can guess all you want about what someone’s is thinking but for the most part, you’ll never know unless you ask. The only person you can control in any given situation is yourself.

I’m sure how this sub is supposed to work. Whether it’s supposed to enhance someone’s charisma or assertiveness or confidence to make them more approachable? Or let’s say someone is on the shy side, which some women find attractive, would it make more of these types of women seek these types of guys out? I dunno! I’m sure this program is much more in-depth than all that and it will interesting to see where you end up when it’s done.

I’m not sure how old you are, although I think much younger than myself, seeing that you mentioned a woman who is 30 to be a cougar! lol Anyway, I’ve been online a long time and have made some very good, but mostly stay online friendships. I truly enjoy making friends online because you get to know someone from the inside out. To me it’s more like souls talking to souls than people talking to people. It doesn’t matter what age difference (in most cases, 18 and up), race, gender or whatever, we all can connect on some level.

So many years ago I befriended a kid who was in college. I loved him lots but he used to drive me nuts! lol Every day he’d IM me telling me he made some amazing eye contact with some girl. Now this would be fine for someone if they were just looking for that fantasy, took it home, and did what they did with it. But in his next breath, he would always say how he longed for someone to be in a relationship with. And everyday I would say the same thing….if you don’t OPEN YOUR MOUTH and SPEAK, you’re never going to achieve what you want!!!!!!!!

So here’s the deal Ryan. You went to that bar with nothing so therefore you have nothing to lose by approaching someone. Yes, you may get rejected, which is not fun. But you’re also gaining some kind of knowledge about yourself. Make it game of sorts. It’s no different than trying to better yourself in any other area of your life. If you want to be a better athlete, you practice. If you want to be a better student, you practice. If you want to be better at meeting people, you practice. Go into it with no expectations. You may fumble but that’s not the point, the point is that you did it! And by doing something over and over, you going to improve and be less intimidated.

As far as this particular situation goes, I think you maybe should have gone over and introduced yourself to whole group. Saying things like, “you guys look like you’re having a great time”, “are ya’s celebrating or just having a girls night out?” The normal blah blah bar talk. She would have possibly felt more safe (I don’t mean safe as in danger, I mean emotionally safe) knowing that her friends were around and there’s no one on one awkwardness. Make it all about the networking. She may not be interested or available but she may have a sister or friend even cuter that is.

Again, make it game! And I don’t mean make a relationship a game but I think you know that. Some games ya win and some ya lose. But that doesn’t mean you stop playing, it just means you practice more and try again.

Good luck! And Spiral, OPEN YOUR MOUTH and SPEAK!

P.S. (I really like that dance move from that movie lol)