SM is designed first to get you able to do your thing, and once you can do your thing, make it so you don't have to. She won't come to you until you don't need her to. That's the key.
If she comes to you because you need her to, she's not girlfriend material, she's mommy material. Or impatient and brazenly interested enough to make a move for you. Which in itself will likely kill her interest, since she has to be the man for the man in that case, unless she wants to dominate you.
I had a conversation with a friend of mine the other day and she said something about how her boyfriend is "a good boy" and how she has "trained him" well. I could not believe how sexist it was, what I was hearing her say, knowing that if I said the same thing about a female, she'd be screaming sexist pig! And when I pointed this out to her and told her there was no way in hell that any woman was going to do that sort of thing to me, she responded with, "Of course not, you are your own man, you don't need a woman telling you what to do."
Ding! Lights go on in my head. I get it now. Women want a man who is his own man, but will sometimes settle for a boy they think they can train. Until they discover they can't change him...
But I digress. The program starts with making you able to do the job yourself, and once that's done, it works on making her want and choose to do it for you. Doing the man's part is important, and she won't do it for you if she's what you really want.
If she comes to you because you need her to, she's not girlfriend material, she's mommy material. Or impatient and brazenly interested enough to make a move for you. Which in itself will likely kill her interest, since she has to be the man for the man in that case, unless she wants to dominate you.
I had a conversation with a friend of mine the other day and she said something about how her boyfriend is "a good boy" and how she has "trained him" well. I could not believe how sexist it was, what I was hearing her say, knowing that if I said the same thing about a female, she'd be screaming sexist pig! And when I pointed this out to her and told her there was no way in hell that any woman was going to do that sort of thing to me, she responded with, "Of course not, you are your own man, you don't need a woman telling you what to do."
Ding! Lights go on in my head. I get it now. Women want a man who is his own man, but will sometimes settle for a boy they think they can train. Until they discover they can't change him...
But I digress. The program starts with making you able to do the job yourself, and once that's done, it works on making her want and choose to do it for you. Doing the man's part is important, and she won't do it for you if she's what you really want.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!
The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!
