05-24-2011, 07:53 AM
(05-24-2011, 07:10 AM)mat422 Wrote:Quote:In reality people would only comment on what your doing good or bad if they have an opinion of it to help you out or knock you down a peg because of how awesome your work would be. Perfection i would think stems from thinking of not failing. Failing in the since of perfection is a negative trait.
I can relate to this the most. Especially when starting a new hobby that I'm not too good at. I think I put too much unnecessary pressure and expectations on myself and when I don't reach perfection I feel like a failure. Then what happens is I fear that feeling of failure so much I never make any progress because I'm too afraid of mistakes and how it makes me feel. There is also an obsessive side to me that wants to get everything right, almost like OCD. I think this is my biggest hurdle that I need to get under control, letting go of the need to have everything "perfect".
Quote:Try to get publicly humiliated at least once a day, lol. It'll keep you sharp.
I'll keep that in mind lol. But my perfectionism is more based upon obsessive like behavior, not necessarily who I am as an individual. I think the best analogy I can give is imagine working on a jigsaw puzzle. Then just walk away from it and don't think about it. With me, if that puzzle isn't solved I get very stressed and overly obsessed with finishing it. It's a hard feeling to explain in words, which is why is so difficult to pinpoint why I actually behave in this manner.
Although I'm still dabbling around with this, it has come to my attention that my perfectionism rises up (along with many other craptastic symptoms), when my serotonin levels are low. From what I've read is that perfection is basically a fear of rejection, "you're bad (along with anything else that you touch or dare to create) to the core, unless you're able to prove it perfectly otherwise". And when you're trying to prove everything all the time - like you said - you take the fun right out of it. I also have to confess that in most cases I read the stuff I jot down for about 20 or even 30 times, to see what I've missed, but lately the tendency for it has become less, luckily, is really a time-waster
I'm still testing this out, but recommended foods that I've added to my current daily diet are; whey protein (<- very important), banana's and more eggs (there are a whole bunch more, but these suit me the best), and I can feel myself picking up, caring a lot less and feeling more balanced and together, not so guilt-ridden and anxious when I do or say something that is not ok, or whenever I do **** up.
As far as subliminals go, yesterday I stopped using Love and Appreciate Yourself (for about a month), I can definitely notice that it helps on accepting yourself just for who you are, faults and all. But without the diet I will succumb on negative mood swings all the same, so it requires bit of both I believe.
Hope this helps.
