08-24-2016, 07:57 PM
(08-24-2016, 07:38 PM)Steven Wrote: Shannon,
Thank you for such a blunt answer. I've wondered about such factors as familiarity, trust, "she has no context to understand why she feels like this", comfort, disinhibition, "imagined social validation for acting on her feelings with the user", "her feelings fitting into a socially approved agenda", "possibility of a future", attachment,... but I don't know if I have any thing definitive and specific, just concepts.
With women, it seems they can always think of a way that it's not "just right" so they can avoid sex or attachment. The ordinary guy is nothing special so he's disqualified. The awesome guy is too awesome and he might have too many options so he's disqualified. The prince charming is too perfect. The guy next door isn't perfect enough. Etc. So it's not about who the guy is, I think it's more the process of women needing to disqualify so they feel in control or empowered, or like if they have sex or feel attached then they lose something or give up their only bargaining chip. I don't know how to best phrase it.
I think you're trying to simplify it too much.
Every woman is a "unique and special snowflake", and every one has hundreds of tumblers to her "sex lock". And, every one has different tumblers and requires a slightly different key!
So one might be comparing all men to Disney's Prince Charming subconsciously, and rejecting them, one after another, because they don't measure up to this perfect lie she was told to expect when she was 4, 5, 6, 7... and I am not kidding, this actually happens a lot more than you'd think, and it's part of why I don't like Disney.
And another one might be looking for the rich guy, but not too rich, cause then he's out of her perceived league... and that league and thus definition of "rich enough" and "too rich" is unique for every one of them, of course.
And the next one wants the Bad Boy, and only if he shits all over her self esteem will she put out, cause that's what daddy did, and daddy is who she learned what "love" is.
Then there's the next one who's a control freak, and she will only have sex with the man she can dominate and manipulate with her sex organs, and there's the hippie chick who wants to have sex with every guy she feels anything for because free love, man! And on and on.
You can't say "women" and be talking about the same thing for all of them, except that they're genetically women.
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