10-07-2017, 05:26 PM
(This post was last modified: 10-07-2017, 05:36 PM by SargeMaximus.)
Thanks to Dr. Strangelove's Topic: http://subliminal-talk.com/Thread-Men-s-...#pid182055
I've started to put a few pieces together regarding women, attraction, and (oddly) sales.
I'll just stick to facts and then sum up my theories at the end:
- When doing sales, I've always had more success being somewhat ferocious and forceful than trying to reason things out in a civil manner.
- When with my HD, I tried many ways to kiss her on our 3rd date, yet found she responded best to when I put my hand over her forehead and tilted her head back, or when I pulled her towards me. On the other hand, being gentle or accomodating was met with the stiffest resistance. Both methods were used on the one date.
- On DMSI, I've felt mostly confused, while on AM I felt more certain. I had trouble in sales while on AM as well, but I think the uncertainty has undermined me a LOT on DMSI. However, when I can engage my certainty/confidence in what I'm doing and my abilities, the results are BETTER than they were on AM.
To that end, I'd say maybe (heh) just remove whatever is causing the uncertainty. It is likely that women doing the "180" or not being sure about us is simply a reflection of us (me) not being sure of ourselves (myself).
Now, it could very well be that I'm simply unsure of myself because I am learning new things. Indeed, the social aspect of things has got me pre-occupied and deathly afraid of faux pas (which I make repeatedly)
The difference is, when I was on AM making a faux pas was seen as funny and got me attention, nowadays, the slightest faux pas is taken badly. As if I should know better, even when (often times) I don't.
So I'm not sure (heh) if doing the right things are as important as being confident and certain of your own good intentions. Self-doubt, I'd say, is a big theme for me on DMSI or just at this stage in my life.
I also recall my first dating coach and how he said you must be confident. "Even if you're not confident, be confident that you're not confident". That always rang true for me.
So there you have it. Some ideas, mostly brainstorming, but it's the best I can come up with atm.
Thanks for reading.
EDIT: this is not to say that I don't think DMSI needs other things as well. Social/conversation skills, emotional intelligence as well as a " physical harm only" anti sniper are still things I advocate.
I've started to put a few pieces together regarding women, attraction, and (oddly) sales.
I'll just stick to facts and then sum up my theories at the end:
- When doing sales, I've always had more success being somewhat ferocious and forceful than trying to reason things out in a civil manner.
- When with my HD, I tried many ways to kiss her on our 3rd date, yet found she responded best to when I put my hand over her forehead and tilted her head back, or when I pulled her towards me. On the other hand, being gentle or accomodating was met with the stiffest resistance. Both methods were used on the one date.
- On DMSI, I've felt mostly confused, while on AM I felt more certain. I had trouble in sales while on AM as well, but I think the uncertainty has undermined me a LOT on DMSI. However, when I can engage my certainty/confidence in what I'm doing and my abilities, the results are BETTER than they were on AM.
To that end, I'd say maybe (heh) just remove whatever is causing the uncertainty. It is likely that women doing the "180" or not being sure about us is simply a reflection of us (me) not being sure of ourselves (myself).
Now, it could very well be that I'm simply unsure of myself because I am learning new things. Indeed, the social aspect of things has got me pre-occupied and deathly afraid of faux pas (which I make repeatedly)
The difference is, when I was on AM making a faux pas was seen as funny and got me attention, nowadays, the slightest faux pas is taken badly. As if I should know better, even when (often times) I don't.
So I'm not sure (heh) if doing the right things are as important as being confident and certain of your own good intentions. Self-doubt, I'd say, is a big theme for me on DMSI or just at this stage in my life.
I also recall my first dating coach and how he said you must be confident. "Even if you're not confident, be confident that you're not confident". That always rang true for me.
So there you have it. Some ideas, mostly brainstorming, but it's the best I can come up with atm.
Thanks for reading.
EDIT: this is not to say that I don't think DMSI needs other things as well. Social/conversation skills, emotional intelligence as well as a " physical harm only" anti sniper are still things I advocate.
