SargeMaximus: I Feel It Coming, Part II [DMSI 3.1 A Invalid Tester]

[RTBoss]

Reading "Choosing Civility" atm in an attempt to further improve my social skills.

While previously I came from a manipulative intent (even if only used for what I perceived as "good intentions"), I am now focusing more on the finer details. i.e. Being "civil".

That and a guy I know recommended the book to me. I've read that when someone recommends a book to you, it shouldn't be taken lightly!

Anyhow, this quote in the book stood out to me:

"Being civil to one another is more active and positive a good than mere politeness or courtesy, but like many other important goods, such as generosity, gratitude or solidarity, it is not the sort of thing that can be "demanded" as a matter of duty, like a moral entitlement." - Rober B. Pippin

That's a fantastic quote.

I think I may post it to my Facebook today, so my mother-in-law can read it. She demands "kindness" as a moral entitlement. I can't stand the dishonesty. For instance, a quote taken from the author on the same page (or previous, maybe) of the books states, "It is true the polite are inclined to veil their own feelings to spare someone else's. Self-serving lying, however, is always beyond the pale of politeness. If politeness is a quality of character (alongside courtesy, good manners, and civility) it cannot become a flaw. A suave manipulator may appear to be polite, but is not."

My MIL.