07-25-2015, 08:04 AM
(07-25-2015, 03:31 AM)Jacobz Wrote:(07-24-2015, 05:34 AM)Clansy Wrote: Had to literally force myself to write to that girl I met. It's not like I am afraid, more like I have "whatever" or "like I care" attitude. While I believe this will work wonders in future it is pretty annoying now, because of this thing have stopped escalating with one girl that was like 7,5 and had a crush on me and pretty much stopped looking for any girls, have even deleted tinder from my phone.I view this kind of behaviour as resistance. Its like you are saying "I don't want sex". and you think its the same as "oh my neediness has decreased" so you are sure it will do wonders later. Lets cut and say wrong.
Instead of writing tons of explanation I will give you a punch line "If you want sex you will need sex. If won't need sex you won't get sex"
You should want sex.. You should want lots of it! What really matters is self control!
Its because you are afraid that if you would to want have sex/ need it you won't be in control.
I am not about to call you a liar ,I am just pointing that someone who truly realized that he's not afraid would not use "not like I" after that saying "its more like I" and following by "or "like I....""
So sit with yourself and dig deeper to find out what is holding you back and when you do, describe it on paper and see how it differs from the quote above. This, will do wonders for you
It might be resistance or it might be not, we really won't know it. It's pointless to argue here, because solution is exactly the same - continue using SM. If it is resistance it will pass, if it is subliminal doing its work, it will balance itself in next stage.
