S Magnet 3

[apollolux]

I'm afraid of never having the girl, and also afraid of getting the girl. A catch 22 which makes NO sense and allows NO room for growth. DETRIMENTAL.

I've found that when I have a similar feeling it's actually "I'm afraid if I get the girl she will turn out to be fake, not the girl I initially thought I was getting." It's about unrealistic expectations and putting girls (or a particular girl/one-itis) on a pedestal. I'm more afraid that if she turns out to be fake and/or sh!tty that it reflects on me that I have poor taste, attract sh!tty girls, and/or am attracted to sh!tty girls, etc.

That's how I feel about my one-itis, that I know a lot of her flaws and I'm more worried that my attraction to her is some indication of me having bad taste or low standards or something.