12-31-2015, 02:10 PM
(This post was last modified: 12-31-2015, 02:20 PM by hiddenalias.)
(12-31-2015, 01:32 PM)dweller94 Wrote:(12-31-2015, 11:29 AM)hiddenalias Wrote: So I wanted to talk about my life situation with my religion here. Just kinda like a "vent" type of writing. So maybe within one year the situation is that I am about to get 'wedded' but not by choice really. My mom wants me to get married cuz she doesnt want to see me being single as I "age and grow old" where "no woman will want a man that is aging and not young" no more. So for the sake of getting her off my back; becuz if you were to be in my shoes, the topic of discussion is always about me, my job, my marriage, especially living with my folks day in and day out; I never lived away from my folks EVER....OMG do I wanna just go away far away...........so basically my dad, my bro everyone in my family got married before age 35; and I am 35 and still not yet; but Western Society dont give a shit when you get married just like they dont care if you have a gay or lesbian marriage at age 60......but in my culture its best to tie the knot as early as possible......
My culture is bad from my perspective that we have a marriage system that is not about "the guy being morally worthy of marriage to my daughter" but now it is that the people from the marriage are all about "how much money does he make to wed our daughter" "does he have a good career" "is he a doctor, MIT, computer science, businessman" type of career?" (basically in my religionn these are the main types of guys that majority of my religion has for a profession). Even the daughters themselves are like "yeah hes ugly we dont want him or how much does he make for a living" decisions to decide if they wanna be with the guy.....admittedly I am kinda like that too; I dont want a woman who is not attractive but I could care less about her employment status.....but I dont know if I go over board" modern day generation culture here........30 to 50 years ago, my religion was "we blind date pick for you and without choice you marry that guy" at least thats what happened to my mom.....
I am not like my parents, they are "religious" I sometimes say "man mom you are so religious you shouldve becum a nun.......same with my dad; "you shouldve becum a priest" and now my "wife" is also finding her way to wanting to be more dedicated to my religion.....its like I am the only one that has no interest to partake in active duties to dedicate to myself to this religion; well me and I know my brother also doesnt do it either I am sure.......and God her parents are also "preachers" ok I am sure her mom is too but I know her DAD is soooooo freaking into it......I already made up my mind and said to myself, "I will see if she is compatible with me but if her dad pushes me into doing something I dont want to do as I am wedded to his daughter, I am leaving everyone" But I dont think none of that is gonna happen if I run AM 6 and "transform before their eyes" so that if I decided to stay with the woman or the culture, they cant force me to do something I dont wanna do......well literally they wouldnt force me but I am more of a person that is hard to say no to things that I dont wanna do and am "respectful" without being rude and listen to them to do something anyways whether I really like to or not....
Yes I could leave my religion but weird as it is, I think it is the right religion for me but I dont want to be an actively involved person within it......in other words I respect it to stay around but doesnt mean I have to go all hard core in being a preacher and stuff.....its crazy my parents and family dont even know how I really feel about this culture deep in my heart......there are still things I will never do becuz it is not allowed in my religion but in contrast I have broken the rules too and have done things I shouldnt have done......
Also, I know that the subs Shannon has made such as SEX MAGNET, WOMAN MAGNET, etc. are from the perspective and angle for the western society who arent Muslim.......so western culturally speaking, it is deemed "normal" and "accepted" but from Islamic views, we arent allowed to even have girlfriends or be sexual with random women..........thats why I cant even use these subs from a cultural standpoint, but I can at least find my own partner using AYP........
Theoretically speaking IF the creator of IML and the subs was Islamic, you probably wouldnt have ever seen woman related magnets and subs ever created; think about this for a minute, if we were living in Saudi Arabia where courtship and dating arent allowed, and was created by a Muslim Saudi, he wouldve not created SM or WM and maybe not even AYP....
Incase you're wondering, if I was a Christian, you bet your ass I wouldve loved to try out all women related subs mentioned....(sad that I will never experience its potential)
woman magnet doesnt seem bad either if I just want women as friends ONLY.....However I would like to have a hot llooking girl just try to hit on me which would be nice for a change even if it never escalates to something more; that kinda stuff never happened to me in my life; ok true story I was with this girl she was practically ugly and fat and this hot waitress at Friendlys was serving us and man was she gorgeous; now if she could hit on me that would make my day; it doesnt have to escalate to sex either...but the feeling of women 'wanting' me would be marvelous......lol Id rather have had the dine out there with that waitress chick and not the ugly one (God I am so mean)....
But just ranting and venting on this.....thanks for reading.
I get what you mean, but the problem isn't the 'religion' as you are portraying it to be its the cultural mindset of your parents. Trust me I am completely aware of that culture it's ***** up, personally religion for me is there as a guide at the end of the day I am making the choices myself as to what makes me happy/is best for me never have has it induced shame/guilt for whatever reason your actions should be carried out with the absence of shame, guilt and fear.
If you do want to get married and want the perfect match, there is the perfect wife sub.
Get married when you want man and tell your parents whatever you need to, I know this can be hard though.
Hmmm AYPW??? lol honestly I wouldnt care if my wife was islamic or not but might be easier if she was cuz I dont have to educate her on the culture she would know it.....but if she wasnt hardcore religious that would be my PW. And yeah you are probably right, it isn't Islam it is the parents......I mean just today my dad was telling me that we have to go to our version of "sunday Mass" which we have every Friday........and its like I HAVE TO but I've already been through the "i dont have to if i dont want to" and then the parents get pissed off and threaten me to pack up and leave and they really dont mean it cuz if I was to just do that, theyd prolly not let me go then I would still push tem outa the way and go lol.... and honestly I am not able to go nowhere anyways cuz I got no money and I got no job.....so that path is closed.......and thats what I am sick and tired of is still being told where to go and I really cant NOT go cuz I am trying to avoid conflict even if I personally couldnt care about going to our cultural mass.......
and no I dont have a choice about getting married cuz I am long overdue remember my plan is to get wedded and ditch if I dont like the feeling of the in laws and my "wife".......thinking of getting a vasectomy so I dont have children with this woman.....so if I dont feel her; I am out....end of story
lol wish I could make everyone think I died and just leave so they can think I am dead but I live secretly another life (watch Swordfish the movie and the ending scene) want to do something like that.....
I already have it planned out; if I dont like the marriage and what it is becoming, I will just go (hoping to find the partner and go with her would be more ideal). You have to break from the poisonous connections that are your blood relatives, family or not........becuz God chooses your family but that doesnt mean you all die at the same time; and philosphically speaking, on Judgement Day, I dont think you will be united with your physical family from the physical life becuz they are only temporary and in my religion we believe in 7 heavens and those family members will be possibly be divided into 1 of the 7 heavens and not be in the same heaven altogether......so what I am getting at is, your family from this world is not necessarily to be together in the afterlife....pretty deep thought. Cuz you dont decide who your family is in this world, God decides that when He gives you life.....as an adult you can choose to leave or go.
