Path to Greatness - Journal

[Javier Gerardo]

Hunting alone accomplishes a few different goals all at once.

First, it shows indisputably that you are self confident. A man alone is always going to be more socially vulnerable, and when he can do that and still be relaxed and have a good time, she will know he has his shit together at a deep level. He's not faking it.

In my case I'm kind of like fake it until I become it. (I got that here: http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_...u_are.html) I know this works.
This is the only time in all my years of improvement that I tried to go beyond. Before I'm just not that serious in becoming who I want to be.
Back then I do my affirmations and listened to Alpha Male 3G. But I still rarely go out. I spend my weekends still at home and I rarely go to any situation that goes beyond my comfort zone.

Second, it makes it much easier for any woman so inclined to approach YOU. Nobody really enjoys approaching groups with the intent of targeting one person in the group, even if they know how and can successfully do so. With women being so unlikely to approach a man to begin with, why would you throw away the majority of the precious few opportunities you do have by scaring her away with a group of people?

There have been situations before when girls have approached me when I am alone whether in the dance floor or the bar area. In fact I'm kind of thinking now that the only time women have approached me is when I went out alone or when I get separated from my friends at a place.

Third, it increases your freedom to do as you please. You don't have to worry about "Oh, Sarah has to leave at midnight because she has work in the morning," if you happen to have the day off tomorrow, and you're the driver.

I always wanted to be a man with a big social circle. It is still a goal of mine. But before I wanted to have a big social circle so that my acquaintances and friends are the ones introducing girls to me and I don't have to approach or do the first action to meet them. Then I heard from pickup podcast that until I meet random women just by myself, I shouldn't be going for women on my social circle, which are like women from my work etc.
Relating this to your post man, I can see that when I go out alone I usually let my friends do the hardwork and just wait for them to introduce girls to me. I have been using them as a crutch and it made me lose confidence when I go out alone because I've been only getting to know women when I am with friends.

Fourth, it reduces competition. If you go hunting, even with a wing you know and trust, your wing may end up the target of your target's interest, instead of you. If you're alone, there's less chance for that to happen. And if you happen to have someone who is actively trying to compete or block you in your pack... well, all the worse still.

And fifth, it makes you more agile. You can adjust to a situation more quickly, readily and easily, going places and doing things more fluidly and effectively.

I personally know guys within my group of friends who got into a fight with each other due to a girl. Also I get that what you are also saying dude that if I happen to get in a competition with a guy that I don't know, that is much better than getting into a competition with a friend.
Lastly, yes going out alone makes me my own man who can make decisions independently on where I should go, where I should eat and so forth. Ever since I was young I have entirely relied on my parents and others for the decisions I could have made on my own.

Th..Thanks a lot Shannon. That's a lot of reasons for me to finally get out there by myself. No more excuses from now on.