Overcoming Approach Anxiety with a Positive Attitude

[Spiral]

Thanks, Aram. I can relate to this very easily! I can approach anyone outside of a club.. but it's the club/bar environment that gets me. People are there to mingle and potentially hook up with others and that seems to throw me off because I don't want a girl to think I'm just talking to her to hook up with her or something. I'm there to just be there and if it happens great. So I think there's an excuse in that sentance that holds me back from approaching women in clubs. I don't have problems making eye contact with people but I think I just come off as very intimidating so no one will approach me unless I approach them. And consciously being aware is really what helped me change my approach on approaching people in public. I've caught so many people off guard with just simple questions that are important to me at that time. I just started saying fuck it. Next time I go out I will just take things slower.. and breath and just walk up slowly to a group of people and ask them what's up. I've done it before.. don't know why I stopped doing it somewhere along the way.