06-24-2016, 02:22 PM
(06-24-2016, 01:44 PM)Womanizer Wrote: That's why most marriages and relationships don't last because you lose spark , and willpower. The movie couples retreat show a glimpse of what marriage is like, that's why I've always had a negative outlook on marriage. Maybe one day when I'm 40 , more mature and find someone really compatible I may do it. She's into him , but relationships dynamics takes alot of work and commitment. I found that the best solution for my self , not that that's the case now but it once was and it may be again is to live by yourself. This way you can give the women your seeing room and space to miss you.
I've lived with siblings and parents growing up, my best friend for years, by myself, and now with my wife and my own growing family.
It all takes work. It doesn't matter who you live with. When you live with another person, it's never rainbows and butterflies 24/7.
My good friends used to make fun of my wife and I because we argued all the time. They puffed themselves up as the perfect couple because they never fought, had so much in common, yadayada. Their marriage lasted 3 months. You see, neither person communicated the hurts, disappointments, etc. in their relationship - because those will always exist between two or more people on this planet. Nothing ever changed, and then the behind-the-back nefarious stuff began.
If you're going to be in a real relationship, or get married, you better own up to the FACT that it isn't going to be a smooth ride. That's a good thing, we all gotta learn and grow. Doing it together with a person you love is the rewarding part.
