I think I’m finally making progress. Last night I was contemplating why I think I’m ugly. I may not be a 10, but I’m not ugly. It suddenly didn’t make sense. For now, I only rationalise my attractiveness consciously, and my subconscious belief hasn’t changed, but it’s still progress.
Through my life, I have had the false belief that I’m ugly. I was probably not ugly—people just picked on me in the competition for mates (and I was a little bit chubby). In circular logic, kids would tell me I was ugly through my whole childhood, I believed them, so I didn’t see the opportunities that I had, so I took that as evidence that it was true. Self reinforcing after the initial had been planted.
Perhaps my greatest challenge has been that I’ve been receiving mixed signals throughout my life. From the words and behaviours of women, I’ve had it both reinforced that I’m ugly, and encouraged that I’m attractive. It’s created a form of anxiety in me because I’m uncertain if I’ll be well received or rejected by any given woman. When I’ve accepted that I’m ugly, I’ve been given encouragement that I’m attractive, and when I’ve been encouraged that I’m attractive, I’ve had my nascent change in perception undermined by rejection or unkind treatment.
Recently, I’ve been noticing more and more signs that women find me attractive, and for the first time in my life I don’t think I’m ugly when I look in the mirror. I think maybe I can see some attractiveness—just maybe. This conflicts with the belief that I’m ugly, and it is what brought the belief into question. And I’m lucky enough to have a girlfriend this time around so that the belief isn’t immediately crushed.
This self-belief as been a big blocker for my progress over the past 10 years of listening to Shannon’s subliminal programmes. I’m very surprised that they haven’t dealt with this already. @Shannon any thoughts or observations here?
Wish I knew how to shift my subconscious perception as well. I realised last night that a lot what has historically held back my progress with approaching women is the fear of approaching a woman who doesn’t want to be approached by me—the fear predominantly being supported by anxiety of not knowing how they perceive me, and therefore how they’ll receive me. This is probably why OGSF is acting on this belief, or maybe because of the trauma that I’ve described.
Through my life, I have had the false belief that I’m ugly. I was probably not ugly—people just picked on me in the competition for mates (and I was a little bit chubby). In circular logic, kids would tell me I was ugly through my whole childhood, I believed them, so I didn’t see the opportunities that I had, so I took that as evidence that it was true. Self reinforcing after the initial had been planted.
Perhaps my greatest challenge has been that I’ve been receiving mixed signals throughout my life. From the words and behaviours of women, I’ve had it both reinforced that I’m ugly, and encouraged that I’m attractive. It’s created a form of anxiety in me because I’m uncertain if I’ll be well received or rejected by any given woman. When I’ve accepted that I’m ugly, I’ve been given encouragement that I’m attractive, and when I’ve been encouraged that I’m attractive, I’ve had my nascent change in perception undermined by rejection or unkind treatment.
Recently, I’ve been noticing more and more signs that women find me attractive, and for the first time in my life I don’t think I’m ugly when I look in the mirror. I think maybe I can see some attractiveness—just maybe. This conflicts with the belief that I’m ugly, and it is what brought the belief into question. And I’m lucky enough to have a girlfriend this time around so that the belief isn’t immediately crushed.
This self-belief as been a big blocker for my progress over the past 10 years of listening to Shannon’s subliminal programmes. I’m very surprised that they haven’t dealt with this already. @Shannon any thoughts or observations here?
Wish I knew how to shift my subconscious perception as well. I realised last night that a lot what has historically held back my progress with approaching women is the fear of approaching a woman who doesn’t want to be approached by me—the fear predominantly being supported by anxiety of not knowing how they perceive me, and therefore how they’ll receive me. This is probably why OGSF is acting on this belief, or maybe because of the trauma that I’ve described.
