09-27-2017, 03:23 AM
It's now starting to become more apparent to me than it already was that any form of fear can't be used to motivate me. Only the idea of getting what I want instead of avoiding what I don't want keeps me going in terms of motivation in general. I've been spending more time with my best friend which is cool because we always have a ton of laughs when meeting up, the only thing that's starting to annoy me is how much he brings up his ex and how he misses her. I understand he's going through a period of self reflection and realizing all the places he went wrong but damn near every single time we meet his ex somehow comes up in the conversation in one way or another.
I've already given him advice on just focusing on himself and becoming a better person all around so that would be beating a dead horse. I guess the reason I really have an issue with it is not just because he keeps repeating but also because I can't stand emotional weakness. You can still be human without walking around like a victim all the time. I just have to remember that I can only control myself at the end of the day but I would like to see if there's a way I can just help my best friend cope better from his breakup that already happened months ago.
I've already given him advice on just focusing on himself and becoming a better person all around so that would be beating a dead horse. I guess the reason I really have an issue with it is not just because he keeps repeating but also because I can't stand emotional weakness. You can still be human without walking around like a victim all the time. I just have to remember that I can only control myself at the end of the day but I would like to see if there's a way I can just help my best friend cope better from his breakup that already happened months ago.
