Develop an aura of sexiness

[Ricardo]

I slept on your reply you may have a point about too much attention. I was in the army back when I was a pretty hot young babe (18,19,20) and received so much unwanted male attention that I Developed some pretty good defense mechanisms to fend every one off - not sure how to overcome that one, sigh...any recommendations?

You may give off those defenses automatically without thinking or realising it. Once these become "part of you" they are very difficult to shift. I would recommend going for a sub that aligns with your thinking and desires right now. You could use ASC for a confidence boost then if you're really serious go for Alpha Female (the male version destroyed some very negative long term beliefs of mine).

Otherwise I still think an AYP sub would be your ideal Sub.