01-16-2017, 09:03 AM
(01-16-2017, 07:49 AM)Shannon Wrote: Expectations again. Slippery slope thinking. You are expecting irrational people to act rational. Don't. Women are for the most part not rational creatures. Keep trying different things and learn from your mistakes. That's how everyone makes it to success.
Seriously? That's an expectation? Thinking/expecting that a person who put efforts to look into my profile and like to respond back to me after I send the message is an expectation? And that I am not to have that expectation? Honestly though, I thought that wasn't an expectation, but a standard human behavior, and being called normal and being nice. Fine, you could have not read it, and could have been busy, but when you are online, you are getting the message. (BTW, there is a feature that allows me to know that they have read the message.) Not replying back after getting the message when you have expressed in the interest to the person just seems and feels wrong, and definitely disrespectful. And having that, or thinking that is an expectation I am having?
Jeez man, if I can't even have any expectation, why should I do any of these stuff? Why bother doing all this, when I am going for zero in return? And is it even much to expect that somebody who showed interest in me to reply back to a very simple and short message? (I didn't even craft it a long and detailed message.) Seriously, it's not an expectation I am having, it's a respect I have for myself, and I honestly felt in a way that you were asking me to drop that self respect I have for myself. And I am not going to do that, and I am not going to drop that for the sake of getting a girl or whatever.
Basically, what you have just told me seems whole a lot more discouraging. Based on what you just wrote, I should just give up all the things I'm doing regarding with DMSI, because I shouldn't expect anything, nothing happens. Learn from mistakes? If nothing ever happens, what the hell am I supposed to learn? Oh BTW, I've change tactics, and tried quite a bit of different things except the changing of profile. So yeah, I suppose that can be a mistake to be fixed. But honestly, I'm not even sure why the hell I should even bother doing that, because I can't have an expectation that it will do something. Besides, I know that it's not gonna do anything, and I am just curious why the hell I am still doing this when I have an expectation that it's not gonna do anything.
Yeah then why did I even pay money, effort and time in doing any of the stuff? Because I expect and hope that there is going to be a noticeable advancements. Fine, I gave up on noticeable advancements, and try to hold on to blind faith that I am advancing. (But when faced with so many discouraging stuff, I can't continue doing this for much longer.) Now, I am to not even have an expectation of decency and normalcy? Seriously, I am having a feeling that it's almost like I shouldn't even have any standards and just go for whatever and be content with whatever that's thrown at me. (Whether it's garbage or not.)
I am not going to hold that low for myself, and the reason that I have invested in the stuff (DMSI, online dating or whatever) is that I deserve and I should expect that stuff should happen. Fine it could be that I didn't put enough. But I am not going to lower my standards or not have any standards.
If it is rational to expect or think that I should hear back after I sent a message to those who have shown interest (especially after they read the message, while they were online), and that I can't even expect this from women because they are not rational, then I am just not going to be able to be in a relationship with women. It's plain and simple. But honestly though, I'm not even buying that this is rational, I think it's normal, and it's about decency, and it's about respect.
Thanks for letting me know that I can't expect any single thing, and thanks for letting me know that I wouldn't be able to stand being in a relationship with a woman. (Or a person)
