05-27-2017, 06:36 PM
(05-27-2017, 05:05 PM)Mr. Anderson Wrote: Pretty frustrated right now. Was out tonight and felt really good, good confidence, comfort, I could own my space, felt relaxed - almost like home but still couldn't approach anyone. I don't get it, I mean it's not that hard to say something but I am unable to do so. Got strong IOI's from two girls, one of them was dancing in front of me with her mother I think and gave me most of the time good view on her ass. Even when she came back (I guess from bathroom) they continued dancing in front of me where they could do it anywhere on the dancefloor. Another one later was also dancing in front of me with ass toward me, after a while got armpits display and boobs display pretty much straight in front of my face. After I did nothing about it she moved to a different place. Had also an (older) woman taking seat by my side where most of seats were free. Bunch of opportunities. I don't know what's holding me back. It's not fear of rejection, that I am pretty sure about it, it seems to be something shame related, more like the fear to mess up and become shamed about it. But I am not completely sure. I really want (and need) to fix it as soon as possible but still don't know how. Anyway, time for bed.
Perhaps you're taking the interaction too far, mentally. You're taking too many steps at once. Instead of just dancing with her or saying "Hi," you're already back at her place or yours (in your head), and so you stop it before it starts.
Take it one step at a time. Just say, "Hi," or just start dancing. Then figure out what's next.
