DMSI 3.1 Call me Thomas Jonathan Jackson

[Shannon]

Just read RTBoss's journal about the capacity to have feelings for more than one person etc. I 100% an going through the same thing. The problem is not me, it's my gf. She's still firmly locked into the one person and anything else is cheating mentality.

If anything she has been using proxy conversions to drive that point home recently, talking about her clients who have been "destroyed by a partner cheating" or how "cheating is devastating to the other person". I guess she's sensing an increase in value in me and is scared. Justifiably.

This just reinforces my damned resistance to DMSI though. Someone I value and love telling me over and over that I'm going to destroy her life if I succeed in implementing DMSI... aaarrgghh.

What's the solution?

The solution is...

Make up your mind, and pursue it. Choose her, and you have to stop using DMSI and stagnate for the rest of your life unless you can get her to change... and you can't change anyone but yourself.

Choose DMSI and you're going to have to make another choice sooner or later: Break up with her before you have sex with someone else... "cheat" on her... or you can simply change the rules of the relationship and then let the chips fall where they may.

In almost 100% of cases, you will have the woman walk away if you change the rules after they have been set, and especially in a long term committed relationship that is established.

So it really boils down to...

Quit DMSI and stay where you are... or leave her and find someone new through DMSI.

Pick one. And the quicker, the better.