I regularly watch Made in Chelsea with my gf (don't judge me). It's just a bit of light crap to watch and think 'wouldn't it be nice to be able to afford that'... anyway, bear with me.
I actually think that this is bad for our relationship. The programme features constant arguments almost entirely around relationship status and the idea of being 'faithful'. I have been working for a long time, via DMSI, on changing my thinking around this. I now regard the idea of monogamy and ownership of another person as a social evil. NOTHING good comes from it.
All that happens is resentment, jealousy, control and arguments. If these people just gave each other some freedom to express their care/desire for others then there wouldn't be any issues.
So the problem is that MiC is now one continuous shit test for me. My gf will say something like "don't you think that he's just acted really disrespectfully towards her" and I'll answer "Well, it wasn't ideal, but she's shrieking like a harpy over a text message that she was never meant to see and was just him expressing a genuine thought".
And the more often this happens, the less diplomatic I'm getting. At some point soon, I'm going to end up using Made in Chelsea to tell my GF that I think that monogamy is bullshit. After 23 years together. LOL. That's not going to go down well.
My GF is not unreasonable though, and she has always said that it's normal to fancy other people and to flirt a little. However, the slightest hint that I am straying would send her into extreme anxiety. More than once she has asked me "do I need to be concerned about her?" when I have mentioned another woman. All this does is reinforce my subconscious need to not display any kind 'disloyalty' to avoid hurting her.
Still running B this week. Currently listening to two loops hybrid, mid volume Flac, over headphones. I will continue alternating week to week until 3.2. Unless Shannon tells me otherwise
I actually think that this is bad for our relationship. The programme features constant arguments almost entirely around relationship status and the idea of being 'faithful'. I have been working for a long time, via DMSI, on changing my thinking around this. I now regard the idea of monogamy and ownership of another person as a social evil. NOTHING good comes from it.
All that happens is resentment, jealousy, control and arguments. If these people just gave each other some freedom to express their care/desire for others then there wouldn't be any issues.
So the problem is that MiC is now one continuous shit test for me. My gf will say something like "don't you think that he's just acted really disrespectfully towards her" and I'll answer "Well, it wasn't ideal, but she's shrieking like a harpy over a text message that she was never meant to see and was just him expressing a genuine thought".
And the more often this happens, the less diplomatic I'm getting. At some point soon, I'm going to end up using Made in Chelsea to tell my GF that I think that monogamy is bullshit. After 23 years together. LOL. That's not going to go down well.
My GF is not unreasonable though, and she has always said that it's normal to fancy other people and to flirt a little. However, the slightest hint that I am straying would send her into extreme anxiety. More than once she has asked me "do I need to be concerned about her?" when I have mentioned another woman. All this does is reinforce my subconscious need to not display any kind 'disloyalty' to avoid hurting her.
Still running B this week. Currently listening to two loops hybrid, mid volume Flac, over headphones. I will continue alternating week to week until 3.2. Unless Shannon tells me otherwise
Fear Is The Mind-killer
