10-30-2015, 05:23 PM
(10-30-2015, 04:06 PM)Benjamin Wrote: Sounds like a rationalization to me, and I can say this from my own experience. There is a certain fear I have that sometimes makes me convince myself not to take action because afterall i'm getting 'attention' and 'attraction' from a girl and taking action could mean i'm rejected and ruin that.
The funny thing is I can easily see this happening when i'm on the outside, but not so much with myself.. but I am aware of the pattern at times.
Yep.
I've known a girl for awhile, I like her. But I felt the time wasn't right for awhile.
I was too focused on my business and didn't want a relationship as my business is my number one focus to me. I thought that a relationship would just take energy away from my business and cause me stress and nonsense that I can't afford at this point of expansion. And to be honest, I've been really enjoying the feeling of strength where I'm FINALLY not chasing women for the first time since puberty and not letting having or not having a female in my life define my worth.
She gave me lots of signals, seemed very interested, flirty and all the rest of it. So, two nights ago, I figured whatever why not let's see what happens and if all my subliminal hours have done anything, and asked her out. She was very flattered and shocked I was interested as she wasn't sure if I was all this time. And she said a couple months ago she started dating a guy while keeping it low profile. We'll see what happens, maybe in a couple months or so I'll try again if I'm still interested and not involved.
The moral of the story is, Ben is right. You can assume a girl is interested etc. etc. as they can put on quite an act. But, at the end of the day, the only thing that matters is results. Go for it, she'll either say yes, or anything else in the world, that MEANS no. At least then you'll know and not engage in "well maybe she likes me, because blah blah", you'll KNOW. Then you can meet new ones and not waste your time. Or backburner her and be chill and fun with her, keep an eye on her to see if things change and you see an opportunity. Only do that while actively involving yourself with other girls to prevent onenitis though!
Honestly, with how well you seem to be taking to this magnet for whatever reason, just go for it. If it doesn't go down the way you want, there will be others. You're getting far more results with me in your first week, than I did ALL of SM3...
Good job. Keep it up, friend. I'm proud of you.
