04-21-2016, 08:44 PM
Hi I'll log this on here for now, but if it starts to get even PG, I'll move it to the women's journals section but I'll also say that I've done that and put a link.
OK so while I'm steering clear of doing multi subs from here at once, and the AYPB is still my main sub, I was looking again at "Overcoming The Victim Mentality" (4g) and going, "This is DEFINITELY something I can benefit from!"
I don't know if part of it comes from my childhood? My brother was a bit of a bully to me and dad would say sarcastically, "Aw, you're SO hard-done-by!" But I know sometimes I unfavourably compare my life to others and I've been a bit negative, you know? and also sometimes I've been a target for users.
ANYWAY on to the sub!
I think it's been about a couple of weeks of using it and this is what I've noticed so far:
Although I wanted to focus on gratitude, it went from that to really REALLY wanting to focus on gratitude/appreciation. Including things like being more consistent in sharing my "daily appreciations" on this gratitude facebook group rather than just every few days. So I've been looking at that, ways to increase my gratitude and positivity.
Another this is, if I go to complain or tell bad things about my life, I'm a little more aware of that now, that I'm doing it.
And it's NOT a sympathy ploy, sometimes it's been a cry for help, a desire to vent etc. But I'm more aware now that that is what doing, hey I'm doing it again.
Third thing is, as I said, there are guys I chat to in a chatroom. I've sort of made online friends there that I chat to on occasion in there, more than those who flit in and out. One of them WAS being helpful but I felt like - even though I appreciate that!! - I felt like "No, I don't WANT you to pity me! I don't want you to feel sorry for me."
And that's in the sub about rejecting others' pity etc.
Will keep you posted.
Powerful stuff so far!
OK so while I'm steering clear of doing multi subs from here at once, and the AYPB is still my main sub, I was looking again at "Overcoming The Victim Mentality" (4g) and going, "This is DEFINITELY something I can benefit from!"
I don't know if part of it comes from my childhood? My brother was a bit of a bully to me and dad would say sarcastically, "Aw, you're SO hard-done-by!" But I know sometimes I unfavourably compare my life to others and I've been a bit negative, you know? and also sometimes I've been a target for users.
ANYWAY on to the sub!
I think it's been about a couple of weeks of using it and this is what I've noticed so far:
Although I wanted to focus on gratitude, it went from that to really REALLY wanting to focus on gratitude/appreciation. Including things like being more consistent in sharing my "daily appreciations" on this gratitude facebook group rather than just every few days. So I've been looking at that, ways to increase my gratitude and positivity.
Another this is, if I go to complain or tell bad things about my life, I'm a little more aware of that now, that I'm doing it.
And it's NOT a sympathy ploy, sometimes it's been a cry for help, a desire to vent etc. But I'm more aware now that that is what doing, hey I'm doing it again.
Third thing is, as I said, there are guys I chat to in a chatroom. I've sort of made online friends there that I chat to on occasion in there, more than those who flit in and out. One of them WAS being helpful but I felt like - even though I appreciate that!! - I felt like "No, I don't WANT you to pity me! I don't want you to feel sorry for me."
And that's in the sub about rejecting others' pity etc.
Will keep you posted.
Powerful stuff so far!
