Alpha Female 2011 4G

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could just shoot them a quick email. if it's bugging you, asking for forgiveness will lighten your heart.

The dilemma is digging up such a small, casual matter that happened years ago, will it harm the relationship? I have no idea.

Is this a guilt pattern that I have, that the sub is working on releasing? Perhaps. Do I need to act on it? I don't know, but I know that I will feel better if I apologised for my behaviour.

To apologise for this matter because of my guilt trip would be pure selfishness on my part, because I'm doing it for myself. Our relationship is amicable, and my friend is polite (and younger than me, hence in some way she looks up to me), I could make it better but I don't want to make it worse. If she held a grudge all these years and I apologised, I think it would release some anger in her. If she hadn't, and couldn't seem to remember the incident, wouldn't I appear to be narrow-minded and the one bearing the grudge?

I was proud and haughty when I said it, and I'm not proud of it now.

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You know what? It suddenly dawned on me what I should do now LOL.

Thanks stratos for reading and responding!

No it won't hurt you

Yes you need to act on it

You can't say it would make her angry, all you can do it change how you feel. Saying "sorry" is just a spoken word but you have to deal with the root of the problem between the both of you for any progress.

What you just did was evidence of dealing with some of your fear and guilt. Keep it up and you'll see great changes.

Thanks

Fonzy

If all I had in mind was me, I would have just gone out there blurted all of it and said sorry just to sleep better at night. But I value my relationship and friendship with her more. Hence the dilemma. You know, if I chose not to mention a word about that day, we could continue amicably forever, and I could trust time to heal whatever pain, hurt or grudges she held.

What I needed to find was to strike a balance between the two, healing myself and not disrupt the relationship. Which I happened to stumble upon while replying stratos. Can't believe my luck