01-11-2014, 11:13 AM
An old memory surfaced today... I felt that I needed to seek forgiveness for, to most people deem as a small matter, but to me, I felt really sorry, because I felt it was an uncalled for and could deeply affect the person receiving the comment (especially less mature persons). The problem is, I don't know how to do it and it's bothering me.
The matter was:
We were playing a turn-based game. It could get pretty boring if the players bide their time on making a decision on their turn. So when the current game finally ended and a new game started (with 1 change in player, a novice player), I made a truthful but hurtful comment that "wow now this game moves a lot faster" within the earshot of the novice player (without thinking). From the behaviour of the person after I made the comment and the months/years thereafter, I felt that the comment had been taken personally and with hard feelings.
Although our relationship/friendship has been amicable (she is a nice person), I still felt a need to apologise for my bad behaviour. I did feel haughty while making the comment back then, which adds to the guilt.
Well guys ... what should I do?
Too much time has passed to dig up an incident this small, even though I remember it clear as day. I mean, my friend may not think of it much today since it has been watered down over time. Or I might be wrong and she still holds a grudge (which women are famous for).
I know I would feel a whole lot better if I just apologised for the matter, and should probably have done so back then, but I guess I wasn't as mature as I am today.
Your comments, suggestions, criticisms are welcome. Thank you!
The matter was:
We were playing a turn-based game. It could get pretty boring if the players bide their time on making a decision on their turn. So when the current game finally ended and a new game started (with 1 change in player, a novice player), I made a truthful but hurtful comment that "wow now this game moves a lot faster" within the earshot of the novice player (without thinking). From the behaviour of the person after I made the comment and the months/years thereafter, I felt that the comment had been taken personally and with hard feelings.
Although our relationship/friendship has been amicable (she is a nice person), I still felt a need to apologise for my bad behaviour. I did feel haughty while making the comment back then, which adds to the guilt.
Well guys ... what should I do?
Too much time has passed to dig up an incident this small, even though I remember it clear as day. I mean, my friend may not think of it much today since it has been watered down over time. Or I might be wrong and she still holds a grudge (which women are famous for).
I know I would feel a whole lot better if I just apologised for the matter, and should probably have done so back then, but I guess I wasn't as mature as I am today.
Your comments, suggestions, criticisms are welcome. Thank you!
