So now she's like "I'd like to eat out and goto the movie".
She's never been this challenging, too coincidental that it comes up on my 'bad' day when something seems to be healing, some kind of challenge bringing more up to heal as i've felt that DMSI has done a few times.
I said "Why are you being so difficult today? First "I have to work" which is fine, but then "oh lets meet later again". It's a little strange".
I'm close to telling her she can go out and eat by herself and that i'll see her another day. What annoys me more too is it's her birthday lunch sunday and I even got her a book, honestly because I felt obligated to because "it's the thing you do" though she's not officially my gf.. and now this bs.
It's possible she won't even reply. Last time she pulled shit and I called her out on it I got no reply at all because she couldn't deal with me pulling her up on it. If she doesn't reply tonight then tomorrow i'll simply message her saying I can't make it or something and soft next.
Fuck, if she keeps it up and I have to soft next then it's gonna bring up a fair bit of guilt seeing I organized to goto her birthday lunch. As Blackdragon says "once it's in motion then it's in motion, even if you've organized to goto an event with her".
I'll quote this from one of his articles to remind myself...
I think it's potentially heading towards that.
On a sidenote these things are why it would be ideal to have multiple girls. I can still pull it off with one because I would rather be alone than fucked around unlike some people but it weighs on me and stresses me out, it wouldn't so much if I could just be like "ok" and go fuck someone else. But temporarily for Inner Bonding i've stopped trying to meet other girls because until i've made good progress it potentially falls into the same pattern of "using them to fill this hole inside".
EDIT: So as predicted she didn't reply but has been online on facebook and also was online on the dating site I met her. So I sent "No reply means you're just fucking me around again. Don't worry about tomorrow... I might see you one day next week." Which hopefully also gets the point across I won't be at her birthday on sunday.
And seriously.. she now blocked me on facebook messenger. She's fucked and can't handle any kind of conflict so her response is to block me like she did last time. Weird though she didn't block my profile only blocked me on messenger.
So again it shows me don't fucking buy girls presents for their birthday unless they are a proper girlfriend because you're feeling 'obligated' and guilty if you don't for some dumb reason. Good thing is i'm not the kind of person to spend a huge amount of money on that.
I wonder if I can have fun with it and just give the books away to someone who would appreciate them... hmm.
It would be ideal to goto the gym tomorrow and talk to another girl and invite her to coffee or something similar, kind of just for "she hears about it so knows not to fuck me around" thing.. but honestly I don't think I can do so without being connected to the outcome and reaching out hoping a new girl will temporarily make me feel better.
She's never been this challenging, too coincidental that it comes up on my 'bad' day when something seems to be healing, some kind of challenge bringing more up to heal as i've felt that DMSI has done a few times.
I said "Why are you being so difficult today? First "I have to work" which is fine, but then "oh lets meet later again". It's a little strange".
I'm close to telling her she can go out and eat by herself and that i'll see her another day. What annoys me more too is it's her birthday lunch sunday and I even got her a book, honestly because I felt obligated to because "it's the thing you do" though she's not officially my gf.. and now this bs.
It's possible she won't even reply. Last time she pulled shit and I called her out on it I got no reply at all because she couldn't deal with me pulling her up on it. If she doesn't reply tonight then tomorrow i'll simply message her saying I can't make it or something and soft next.
Fuck, if she keeps it up and I have to soft next then it's gonna bring up a fair bit of guilt seeing I organized to goto her birthday lunch. As Blackdragon says "once it's in motion then it's in motion, even if you've organized to goto an event with her".
I'll quote this from one of his articles to remind myself...
Quote:Once the soft next is initiated, it’s initiated. It doesn’t matter if it’s her birthday or Christmas or whatever the hell else going on, during the nexting period you don’t contact her or respond to her in any way, no exceptions!
If she doesn’t like that, that’s her problem. She shouldn’t have been a bitch in the first place. If she gives you even more drama later for not contacting her on her birthday, extend the time of the soft next, or soft next her again, or hard next her.
I think it's potentially heading towards that.
On a sidenote these things are why it would be ideal to have multiple girls. I can still pull it off with one because I would rather be alone than fucked around unlike some people but it weighs on me and stresses me out, it wouldn't so much if I could just be like "ok" and go fuck someone else. But temporarily for Inner Bonding i've stopped trying to meet other girls because until i've made good progress it potentially falls into the same pattern of "using them to fill this hole inside".
EDIT: So as predicted she didn't reply but has been online on facebook and also was online on the dating site I met her. So I sent "No reply means you're just fucking me around again. Don't worry about tomorrow... I might see you one day next week." Which hopefully also gets the point across I won't be at her birthday on sunday.
And seriously.. she now blocked me on facebook messenger. She's fucked and can't handle any kind of conflict so her response is to block me like she did last time. Weird though she didn't block my profile only blocked me on messenger.
So again it shows me don't fucking buy girls presents for their birthday unless they are a proper girlfriend because you're feeling 'obligated' and guilty if you don't for some dumb reason. Good thing is i'm not the kind of person to spend a huge amount of money on that.
I wonder if I can have fun with it and just give the books away to someone who would appreciate them... hmm.
It would be ideal to goto the gym tomorrow and talk to another girl and invite her to coffee or something similar, kind of just for "she hears about it so knows not to fuck me around" thing.. but honestly I don't think I can do so without being connected to the outcome and reaching out hoping a new girl will temporarily make me feel better.
