Thanks Duke.. yes it's weird and some of the feelings I don't like, but feeling that is part of it. Like i'm feeling 'weaker' since going back to A and doing the dialoguing.
I've been having random urges again after I lost interest on B to go on dating sites and talk to more girls again. For so long i'd wake up every day and look at the sites and several times a day. So for now i'm holding off on it when that urge comes up. The process of the dialoguing is coming up with "what do you need?" and taking the action it suggests, which is making the healing a priority.
Actually what I could say is at the moment i'm feeling pretty good within myself when i'm alone and such, but just 'weak' socially.
I've caught myself several times getting pissed off and frustrated at myself over 'not being attractive' or getting no attention then remembering to be gentle on myself instead. As part of it also is being okay whether girls are interested or not.
The idea is to deal with this and then I will be able to build up much more effectively after doing so.
I've been having random urges again after I lost interest on B to go on dating sites and talk to more girls again. For so long i'd wake up every day and look at the sites and several times a day. So for now i'm holding off on it when that urge comes up. The process of the dialoguing is coming up with "what do you need?" and taking the action it suggests, which is making the healing a priority.
Actually what I could say is at the moment i'm feeling pretty good within myself when i'm alone and such, but just 'weak' socially.
I've caught myself several times getting pissed off and frustrated at myself over 'not being attractive' or getting no attention then remembering to be gentle on myself instead. As part of it also is being okay whether girls are interested or not.
The idea is to deal with this and then I will be able to build up much more effectively after doing so.
