Quote:I think it kinda makes sense that B wouldn't fix your sexual performance issues. If you relate to the picture Shannon was giving with the wooden table, you're trying to use a "broken table" currently, first you need to "heal" that table and after that, B would be more appropriate.
It made sense with my initial thoughts about the difference. Then recently I was wondering because it seems B may work on things too but in a different way. But my current thought is that B is a little 'harsh' for me.
So it may be true that B could get me to the goal faster and more effectively, but less gently and in a more harsh way. And the gentle way is better for me even if it takes a little longer. Honestly if I look at things in the past the harsh treatment never helped me from people, it just shut me down.. but then more gentle understanding like being coached in FasterEFT by a woman who was more like that.. helped more.
Quote:It makes sense if you keep in mind that the wording for enhancing the sexual performance itself can cause the issues for some people. The healing in A would help to fix the problem that the wording causes too much pressure on the user where B itself would find a faster way to achieve the sub goal than A due to the delay caused because of healing.
Hmm yeah, it's very strange how it seems "B might achieve the goal of sex.. but oh yeah there's these girls wanting to fuck but it's hard to perform". But that's how it's seeming to me.
Quote:The sexual performance stuff is just some part of you responding to the programming for optimal sexual performance with "I don't think I can, I'm afraid to try." Those of you having this issue, it's coming from a subconscious fear of not being good enough in terms of sexual performance. I'll be adjusting the optimal performance module to correct for this reaction, but in a nutshell... that's what's causing it. The program is saying, "When you have sex, do a great job!" and your subconscious is saying... "But... I'm not good enough at this!"
When I adjust the program to clear/heal/adjust for this, you're very likely going to see a stark difference in your responses and how you perform sexually. We are going to aim to clear out the root of the issue, which is: some part of you is still stuck in your pre-pubescent and pubescent angst about being good enough and performing well enough sexually to be good enough.
That definately applies, even with how many girls i've slept with I still have those insecurities though in recent years i've been better with it especially with Male Sexual Qigong helping. I definately do have that thought of not being good enough sexually, especially with more attractive girls.
I look forward to when it's adjusted, it would be awesome to have the positive response to it and performance being good.
By the way something I forgot to mention that I thought of this morning, along with this.. the times when it's happening the worst there is also a kind of 'I can't be bothered feeling' like one of the times last night when I couldn't get hard I was going though the motions of touching her and not really into it which was weird. Then later on when I laid there a bit and relaxed then I got into the moment and enjoyed it more and that time it went ok.
So it's combined with an apathy type feeling of "I'm not really into this or interested in it" even though I actually am. Strange. Guess it could be similar like "I don't think I can so i'll just feel like i'm not into it as that feels safer".
I don't know what i'm going to do with this, this response is causing frustration with us though she seems to be okay and I still have manged to have sex a few times.. but I know it's not what I CAN do and have in the past so it frustrates me. And the weird thing of finding it more difficult to stay hard in other positions could lead to things getting a little stale.. I haven't had that issue in the past that I can remember until now.
For now i'll go back to A and see what happens, as it seems B is too harsh for me and won't deal with that issue and as I said the more gentle approach is better for me.
Past that i'm not sure. It's hard to know if the dialoguing i'm doing is helping but i'll continue it for a while to see.
