08-14-2016, 03:42 PM
(08-14-2016, 02:28 PM)RTBoss Wrote:(08-14-2016, 02:12 PM)Shannon Wrote:(08-14-2016, 01:41 PM)Mr. Anderson Wrote:(08-13-2016, 07:48 PM)Shannon Wrote: Well she knows the rules, and she knows I don't care if it's Luke Bryan or the garbage man.
Just get this right. You achieved with your girlfriend that you can sleep with other women and she wouldn't sleep with anyone else?
Yes. And if she isn't happy with those rules, she is always free to go her own way. She follows these rules of her own free will because I and what I bring to the table are more than worth it for her.
If you came across a woman with higher-value, goals, abilities, etc. than you - would you be able to enter into a relationship with her if her rules mirrored yours? Also, how does having children change the rules?
Be able to? Sure. Be willing to? No.
Me having children is reserved for those who I know I can trust fully. Raising kids is no joke, and I need to know that the mother and I agree on how to raise kids, and that we have a steady long term relationship in place and ample means to provide them with a safe, stable upbringing before I have kids. I also need to know that we can communicate with one another openly and honestly and resolve conflicts effectively. Furthermore, I need to know that she will not use the laws that favor women to her advantage to try to take my kids from me, or something unreasonable like that. I believe strongly that a child needs both parents to grow up as healthy as possible mentally and emotionally, and the parents need to be mature and healthy mentally, emotionally and physically themselves. Therefore, the couple must have a healthy relationship and be able to stay together for the entire time the kids are growing up, at the least.
I only know one woman right now who fits those criteria. That's almost 43 years of looking to find one such woman. So I seriously doubt that it's going to be an issue with multiple women wanting to have my kid until I'm rich and famous, and at that point, we know they won't be interested for the right reasons, and they'll be dropping like flies on the disquals.
But if I were to find a woman who met all my criteria, I would consider having kids with her after she made it with me for at least 3 years. And if I did that, all of the women I am involved with would know about it up front, and they would have agreed to that possibility from day 1.
The fact is, when you're fully honest with women, and they know they can trust you, and you decide that you're going to do things your way and if they don't agree they're welcome to be just friends or whatever, you get a lot more access than you might think. People are going to do what they're going to do. I'm just being honest about what I want and need to be genuinely happy. I don't have time to waste with lies and BS in either direction.
I'm very particular. And the women I choose don't always have the attributes you might expect because what I value is trustworthiness and genuineness, not looks. Looks is temporary and generally, from my experience, correlates to people who have difficulty with being honest. For me the biggest key is trustworthiness, so that doesn't fly in my book. I'll take plain looking and trustworthy over super hot and untrustworthy any day of the week.
Give her all the accurate information she needs to decide for herself what she wants to do, and then do your own thing. If she wants to be with you, she'll do what it takes. If not, you can just be friends or go your separate ways... and nobody got hurt because nobody got lied to.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!