11-19-2016, 10:54 AM
(11-19-2016, 08:48 AM)Ivaylo Wrote: Fourth challenge - blast from the past
Met an ISFJ girl on the trip, who reminded me a lot of my first (and up to now the only exclusive long-term) girlfriend. I was with my first girlfriend for two years and without going into details we got separated for reasons beyond our control, which was quite painful for me at the time.
Now here's this pretty (and smart) 21-year-old girl, showing me IOIs, butt displays, solid eye contact and smiling all the way. Pushed through a lot of self-hate and feeling sorry for myself (things that were brought up from my past) and made my interest clear in several ways without escalating overtly. We were always with the group, she was an ISFJ anyway so I decided to just keep the sexual and romantic tension in check until we land back in Sofia.
A few hours ago I asked her out for coffee and she was "busy this whole next week". Full stop.
This reminds me of a girl in one of my college classes getting super close to one my friends. She was pretty aggressive with the whole thing, setting up study dates and meals etc, and basically shocking the hell out of him because he couldn't believe she was interested in him.
Turns out though, that she was just incredibly social and had a bit of a problem of leading guys on.
My friend told me at the end of their study date she mentioned her 'boyfriend' a few times and it just CRUSHED him because he's pretty shy and legitimately thought she was interested in him. LOL
Even though he eventually took it well (the shock lingered for a while) it still made me laugh to no end because of how bewildered he was with the whole thing.
Apparently, she wasn't all that interested in what he had to say and kept up 90% of the conversion.
I told my friend, "Surely that was a sign from the start that she wasn't interested? I mean, it just sounds like she wanted someone to talk to...someone to vent her shit to."
Dude didn't respond