09-11-2016, 01:35 PM
(09-11-2016, 11:29 AM)chaosvrgn Wrote: But... I'm going to march on. Keep running DMSI until I'm healed to the point that I can function without hate. I noticed that the first week of v2.4 was filled with abundance and prosperity. Lots of motivation. Whether I want to admit it or not, holding all this disdain and hate in my heart will only hold me back. So, for now, I'll suffer and keep fighting on.
The thing that some guys haven't internalized is that you don't need to suffer. You probably already do this, but what I've chosen to do is if it's within my power to remove the source of an antagonism in my life I will do so since in my mind by that time I've rationalized that it's too detrimental to keep that source in my life and outweighs the supposed benefits. I hardly speak to my mother anymore, I don't actively seek out my brother, I've long since ended my "friendship" with that one blonde Russian one-itis, etc.
Self-sabotage notwithstanding, if you value continuing your relationship with #3, especially if you value it more than your relationship (fling?) with "L", the rational thing to do is break it off with "L".
A Better Alex (ISTJ): EPRHA → ASC → AM6 → …
A Sexy Alex (ESTJ-T): BIABWS+DAOS → DMSI → …
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A Sexy Alex (ESTJ-T): BIABWS+DAOS → DMSI → …
A Better Alex (ENFJ-T): AM6 → …