Thank you for that.
On the one hand, I'm humbled by so many responses when I make a post. I read every one and I find it amazing so many people take time out of their day to write things to me. This forum is unlike any other I've been to. Other times I wonder if it's "my" thread about my sub experience anymore as it changes to a chatterbox thread. Or an argument between two other people about something that may or may not have to do with me even indirectly, lol. But, I respect that others have opinions on things, or see something I don't. So I continue to post, and try to remember I am part of a community here, not a one man island.
There are times I feel shame for being a virgin still for sure, or feeling bad about myself about it, or just loneliness. I guess that's natural, it tends to spark up more around my birthday, or Christmas, or Valentine's Day, that type of thing. Seeing all the guys I know with their girlfriends or spouses, many times even kids, can start the comparing game "Why am I different?" stuff. I'm not in denial about the fact that it is abnormal to be a virgin by my age. But the fact that the 3 women who have known about it, have been shocked to hear it and never seemed to fully believe it means I may not be too far gone, lol. It's probably that some serious clearing and healing of my awful past needs to be done, and/or mixed with new beliefs far removed from that reality. Then I can finally be able to release the death grip it's had on me and my sex life.
We'll see if DMSI can do that in time.
On the one hand, I'm humbled by so many responses when I make a post. I read every one and I find it amazing so many people take time out of their day to write things to me. This forum is unlike any other I've been to. Other times I wonder if it's "my" thread about my sub experience anymore as it changes to a chatterbox thread. Or an argument between two other people about something that may or may not have to do with me even indirectly, lol. But, I respect that others have opinions on things, or see something I don't. So I continue to post, and try to remember I am part of a community here, not a one man island.
There are times I feel shame for being a virgin still for sure, or feeling bad about myself about it, or just loneliness. I guess that's natural, it tends to spark up more around my birthday, or Christmas, or Valentine's Day, that type of thing. Seeing all the guys I know with their girlfriends or spouses, many times even kids, can start the comparing game "Why am I different?" stuff. I'm not in denial about the fact that it is abnormal to be a virgin by my age. But the fact that the 3 women who have known about it, have been shocked to hear it and never seemed to fully believe it means I may not be too far gone, lol. It's probably that some serious clearing and healing of my awful past needs to be done, and/or mixed with new beliefs far removed from that reality. Then I can finally be able to release the death grip it's had on me and my sex life.
We'll see if DMSI can do that in time.