(03-14-2018, 08:42 AM)wolverine_i_am Wrote:You can't really blame Jake. "resisting","stonewaling","resistor" and many other of the like are the most used words in this forum. It's like...it's becoming a standard now to expect to resist a subliminal, even a tiny part of it. Consciously or not, we are getting trained to resist subs. We hear from Shannon "if it doesn't work then that's because you resist", then from oneself: "oh no...doesn't work, I must be a resistor", and even from fellow members: "You resisted X hard | You are known to be a resistor", ect.(03-14-2018, 08:40 AM)Jake2015 Wrote:(03-14-2018, 08:23 AM)Shannon Wrote:(03-14-2018, 03:17 AM)AstonMartin Wrote: Shannon, what can you estimate about the effectiveness of H&C in 3.2A then compared to 3.1A?
Maybe in percentage.
You're asking me what percentage of red is redder if we have more red than we have now. There's no way to answer. I have said this before several times already, but I will say it again:
DMSI will do what it takes to get you to the finish line, provided you execute the script.
A side will try to actively and gently clear and heal those issues that block you, and may take longer. B side will leave that job up to the Optimus Engine, which will achieve the goal by whatever means are most expedient. They will both get you past that barrier if you need H&C to do it; it's not a matter of which one is "more effective", but of which one is more suitable for your personality type.
I have no idea for me which therefore is better. As a stonewaller that is now not stonewalling on B, so far not fapping is the only tangible result I have noticed. I dont want to sabotage this by changing to A but I also dont want to miss on any better effect that A may give me. No idea. I would only change to A because the "H&C" sounds so amazing as I would love to heal and clear my inner garbage but at the same time, B being a sledgehammer will achieve this too and smash through.
I feel like im stuck between a rock and a hard place with this.
What if you cease to identify yourself as a stonewaller?
Notice on newcomers quickly accept "resistance" as a truth here and write in their new shiny reports that they are maybe resisting.
The other day Shannon talked about how it's important for one to be focused on success instead of lack. I wanted to jump on the occasion to speak my mind but didn't want to start a drama. Then now there's another occasion for me.
I think we might get into self-fulfilling prophecies about resisting. After all, whenever something doesn't work, the minds of members here go directly to "resistance". Ignoring the countless of other variables in play, why would a sub not work for a given individual.
It gets even worst when "You choose to resist" is all what "resistors" hear, talking about taking responsibility (shit like that) and how its their own fault for not executing.
But, Ta-da, that's how we get an individual internalizing the thought that he's a failure as a subliminal user. Yup the subconscious or whatever part of that user can see it to that extreme.
The reminder from Wolverine to stop identifying oneself as a stonewaller or a resistor is a good one. Also maybe we shouldn't be so quick to jump to the conclusion that a member resists a sub when it doesn't give satisfying results.