10-02-2018, 10:02 AM
(This post was last modified: 10-02-2018, 10:03 AM by Have at ye.)
Interestingly enough, I have a friend who recently attempted suicide (he's fine now, undergoing therapy and stuff, it seems to be working out well for him; I'll give him some time yet and probably introduce him to Shannon's subs once I feel he's stabilized enough and off any meds, he's almost ready to try these, I think; the 5.5g LTU that's in the works should probably do him good - I don't think he's ready for DMSI, for instance), mentioned in my journal some time back.
One of his therapists gave him the good 'ol "stoic sage" advice of "the fact that you are experiencing a particular emotion does not mean you need to act on it. Act rationally, above emotions" or somesuch, of which he complained to me by saying "but that's, like, turning myself into a psychopath!" (I was like: "a-ha! a classic resistance attempt ") I attempted to explain that it's apples and oranges, and he did seem to get it, or at least consider it.
From other stuff, I had to undergo a similar reevaluation as you are now doing, matt422, and am still in the process of enacting it. It can be difficult at times due to the fact that the "people pleasing" aspect is directly tied to survival (as a little kid you don't stand a chance of surviving on your own, so kids tend to adjust their behavior in many ways to please those around them so that they won't be "left to die", so to speak - and if one were *trained* to act like this "or else bad things will happen", well, it leaves a behavioral imprint), but even the fact of realizing this is a great step forward on the road to awesomeness.
One of his therapists gave him the good 'ol "stoic sage" advice of "the fact that you are experiencing a particular emotion does not mean you need to act on it. Act rationally, above emotions" or somesuch, of which he complained to me by saying "but that's, like, turning myself into a psychopath!" (I was like: "a-ha! a classic resistance attempt ") I attempted to explain that it's apples and oranges, and he did seem to get it, or at least consider it.
From other stuff, I had to undergo a similar reevaluation as you are now doing, matt422, and am still in the process of enacting it. It can be difficult at times due to the fact that the "people pleasing" aspect is directly tied to survival (as a little kid you don't stand a chance of surviving on your own, so kids tend to adjust their behavior in many ways to please those around them so that they won't be "left to die", so to speak - and if one were *trained* to act like this "or else bad things will happen", well, it leaves a behavioral imprint), but even the fact of realizing this is a great step forward on the road to awesomeness.
"A man who is doing his True Will has the inertia of the Universe to assist him." - A. Crowley