08-22-2011, 11:33 AM
(08-22-2011, 07:42 AM)benjamin Wrote: Sounds like her saying she wants to be in a relationship first is her trying to control you with sex in a way.
I had a girl like that, we were in my room, close to sex and she was like "we have to be in a relationship first". And I said "I told you I don't want that, and I don't see any problem with it." She wouldn't let that go and I just said "ok i'm taking you home" and told her "I don't want a relationship and I don't see any problem with us just having sex" and that changed her attitude, she then decided to come and stay around one night.
-Ben
The game is different with mature women. She wants to be in a relationship first primarily to protect herself from getting hurt. She sees me as a major prize, and she knows other women are going to figure this out sooner or later, so she wants to either avoid emotional entanglement, or go full bore. I understand and respect that. But I can't go full bore right now. So... no sex.
She's used to controlling the man, and she has tried a couple of things, but we know she's not going to control me. That's a big part of why she's interested. I don't need a mommy. And I guarantee you, she's never had a man tell her "We can't have sex for at least the next 8 months." before.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!