(01-28-2019, 10:28 PM)TheWeapon Wrote:(01-28-2019, 06:19 AM)Greenduck Wrote:Yeah, perfectionism and fear of making a mistake have held me back in life. Even though I have been making great progress with the subliminal I still feel like I have a lot to hold me back from being the real me. Perhaps this is all fear based.(01-27-2019, 08:08 PM)TheWeapon Wrote:(01-27-2019, 04:10 AM)Greenduck Wrote:I did not use to frequent the forum on a regular basis but lately I have been following Shannon's journal almost daily because of the new stuff happening. I don't understand the upgrades as good as the forum regulars but the FRM from what I remember sounds good. If it's able to bypass fear/resistance and allowing us to execute more easily that would be awesome.(01-26-2019, 06:09 PM)TheWeapon Wrote: Day 96
I had some type of breakthrough since last post but I can't explain it well or at all. I can see a pattern going and right now I am in a bit of a lull. I had my first dream last night for a while that affected me, but before that it was all static since the last "breakthrough". I don't even bother trying to understand it but I know overall that good things are happening. I do feel in a bit of haze/daze at times, especially when I am resisting, but I am noticing the cycles more now. The lulls where nothing much happens slowly ramps up with more vivid dreaming, then there is usually a bit of resistance where I want to return to old behaviors or thoughts to make myself feel better, but I keep pushing, listening even more before I have some enlightening dream that normally makes little sense, but I know it changes something deep in my mind, like releasing a fear or changing a belief. It goes something like that anyway, who knows though, it's hard to consciously process something that happens deeper.
Why you are ignoring those people is probably because E2 is guiding you to become emotionally healthy, and right now that is what it takes. You maybe need time without emotionally toxic people to recover from whatever it is you need to recover from. Then you can come back stronger with a better sense of your boundaries and having an easier time to distance yourself from those negative people.
I've had thoughts to try a new subliminal, but not for the purpose to run away from E2. I think for now I will stay with it because I wonder how many layers does this onion have. I peel back one layer, feel alight, then start working through the next layer. But overall a lot of my anxiety are gone or at least less now in respect to how I am perceived by others. Before E1, I was completely fixated worrying about what other people thought of me, but now after E1 and now E2, I am so much different and it seems to continue getting better all the time.
I can relate to the "peeling off the onion" you are talking about. Nice to hear about your progress! I also run E2 and will upgrade to E3 when it comes out to get the FRM and other nice technologies Shannon have developed since it was released.
I don't notice huge resistance doing E2, but perhaps the lull periods I describe happen because I am not ready to progress due to the go at your own pace nature of the subliminal. All just speculation, but overall I feel better within myself than I have in a long time and I also have a lot of new healthy habits that I began adopting during E1. The whole rigid all or nothing, success/failure, black and white mindset is a thing of the past, and I am able to flow a lot more through life now in both my actions and thoughts. I had a lot of dreams where I was in situations where I "failed" and rather than contract in shame, I was able to accept that it is no big deal.
Even though I am getting on in age, almost 39 now. I think I still have a lot of potential to achieve some things in life. I am not sure which direction to take with the subliminals, but I know I will keep using them from this site. They are too good to ignore, but I will need to think what direction I want to take in life. Stick with E2, upgrade to E3 or try something new like USLM4. LTU would be cool but I don't have that type of cash to spend on a subliminal. Maybe if I was single and didn't have kids I would, but I'd feel a bit selfish spending that much on myself.
Nice to hear your story, thanks for sharing. I recognize the "all or nothing" thinking and know how good it feels to live a life where you can be just content (i am getting there at least) and not being so held up on what happens around you.
Regarding your attitude towards spending money on yourself - I don't know your financial situation, but I heard a quote that said something in the sense of "the best gift you can give to your kids is your own happiness" that got me thinking about you doing stuff that is good to yourself, doesn't need to mean that they are selfish, but that you get more of the stuff inside that you can share with others.
Sometimes on E2 I feel like I am in a haze. I worry that being so carefree and aloof might damage new relationships with people. Sometimes I just completely ignore certain types of people, like I can't even deal with their negative energy. I'm sure some people think I'm an asshole but I am trying to move forward in life.
When E3 comes out I will follow your progress and anyone else who uses it before deciding whether to buy it for myself. It's all I can afford to spend on a subliminal, I don't think to buy LTU for that price would sit well with me. I have no doubt that it must be worth the price, otherwise, nobody would buy it, so I don't mean any disrespect to the products.
But yeah like I say, those fears that hold me back still, maybe E3 would do a better job than E2. Wouldn't mind trying something different to one day, something that builds me up instead of the H&C related stuff.
That was more of a ramble than a direct response to your post lol so don't feel pressured to respond. Just some out loud thinking.
To me it sounds like you are more invested in how other perceive you than what would be a healthy amount. If people find you to be an asshole because you are not giving them enough attention, that is a neediness problem in them. It's not your responsibility. As the old saying goes, that people that can't accept that you are caring for yourself, are not worthy spending time trying to accommodate their needs (as they clearly don't respect yours). I know what I'm talking about, having a mother who is always focused on her needs and unable to see other people emotional needs, so I have had to change the way I interact with her - i.e. ignoring her trying to make me focus on her needs. A coworker and a mother isn't the same thing, but I still believe that the principle is applicable for your case. Relationships is a give and take, and people who just want to get and can't give, aren't worth having a relationship with.
I found a good clip regarding how to take care of your own needs and learn to listen to those signals. Maybe you also would find it valuable: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LsBRrVqAAs8
Why you are distancing yourself from the toxic people is probably because E2 is guiding you toward becoming emotionally healthy, and that is maybe what it take right now. You need to recover from whatever you are recovering from, and negative people are not contributing to that recovery. When you have recovered, you can come back with a stronger set of boundaries and having an easier time to distance yourself from the negative people. When you don't have a good sense of your emotionally healthy basecamp, it will be harder to gravitate back to that, and negative people will influence you more than if you know how you "should feel" and easily can set boundaries when someone inflict upon that.I have had positive effects from working on my root chakra to get less affected by other people and have an easier time to be centered in myself. I use this meditation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JTqktSAmG30
Regarding the perfectionism I think this isn't a bad thing. But you maybe lack the ability to just "trust that you will figure it out" which I think stem from a lack of confidence. So maybe ASC could be worth looking into after E2/E3. I am planning to use it to get back to being more confident, a capability which I have lost during my depression, even though it's slowly coming back.
Looking forward to following your journey.