04-09-2011, 12:14 PM
(04-08-2011, 03:04 PM)Shannon Wrote: Can you explain how you believe the increase in marital romance relates to your use of and results from the subs, and which ones you think are affecting you in that direction?
Good question Shannon. I attribute the increase to being a healthier man.
With the burdens of raising a family, marital romance occurs more outside of the bedroom than in. Marriage is not all about sex. I think if you are getting married in order to get laid every night you will, over time, find the marriage unfulfilling. Marriage is about caring nurturing and building your spouse and children. Prior to children marital romance is much easier because there are less cares for things that must be done today in order for a smooth tomorrow. You have much more bonding time with your spouse. When children arrive the focus changes from us (spouses) to family. Now there are more things that need to be done today in order to have a sense of sanity tomorrow. Laundry is just one of the many things that must be done today in order for tomorrow to work. Add to that the burdens of house cleaning, shopping, cooking, homework, evening chores, handling the daily small emergencies that arise (and they do occur daily), a desire to have a well kept yard and garden in order to keep up with the Jone's next door, a fear of leaving the garage door open because of all the clutter in it, the desire to improve the interior of the house so that you are not embarrassed to have company over, and did I mention the laundry. These are just a few of the items at are on the mind of my spouse.
Its like a student having a lot of home work, a big project due, and mid-terms all due at the same time, the worker having a half completed project coming due, or even a a subliminal developer who wants to get SM out as quickly as possible. These burdens can pre-occupy your mind with the knowledge that if you put off working towards those things you will still be OK, its not that you don't want romance at that time, you prefer to do the work, reduce the burdens, remove the consequences of non-action, in order to get good grades, finish the project, complete the sub, or have a house and family that is in order and presentable.
I've purchased and use THOSE subs that improved physical intimacy. But with romance, emotional intimacy, bonding, and coupling are as important to a long term relationship as physical intimacy. Put in perspective, the time spent in the act of physical intimacy occupies only a small portion of the time I spend with my wife. THOSE other subs DO improve physical intimacy, they really work. The reports from Ms AwesomeYoungDude in regards to THOSE subs include words like "earth moving", "mind boggling", and "that was an out of body experience". I'm jealous of the intensity and duration of her experience. There was a marked improvement in her intensity and duration since I've started AM11. Physical intimacy affects marital romance but its not the main source of the increase. Physical intimacy is not the "Be all End all" of marital romance. Its the icing on the cake. I feel that the increase in the depths of her pleasure has more to do with the out-of-the-bedroom romance than with the in-the-bedroom techniques. Improved physical intimacy strengthens, improves, and increases the bonds of marriage but it does not create those bonds. Once again if you are getting married in order to get laid each night you are in for a rude awakening at about 5 months into your first pregnancy.
With AM11 I am more and more healthy. More and more my confidence is increasing. More and more I'm bolder, decisive, and firm in my actions. I'm more the kind of man my wife can trust to protect, support, and provide for her. She is more secure and confident in her future. I'm more and more getting things done when asked (this includes at work and at home). Again, I'm becoming more and more healthy. This is attractive to my wife. She also is working to become more and more attractive and she is very attractive to me. She is beautiful. I will grow old with my best friend. This is without price and as stated in my first post is not worth jeopardizing in any way. As much as I can control it I do not want to grow old alone.
My experience with overcoming procrastination 4G is different than with the 3G version. It may be that 4G is coupled with AM11. I don't know the exact source. I do know that this time I have an increase in mental discipline. This time I'm driven to overcome the bad mental habits that caused procrastination. The 3G version drove me to do projects around the house, but it lacked the drive and will power to overcome procrastinating work related things. I still do projects around the house but not with the drive of 3G. I prefer this experience (4G and AM11) to the previous 3G experience. I'm driven to improve myself mentally, foundation work, and more and more driven to start on things at work (mental/physical will power and discipline). I still do projects at home but not at the level I was with 3G. I had a increase in self worth with 3G, but 3G did not work on procrastination as a whole in my life, with 3G I was procrastinating in some areas of my life but not in others. This time I'm addressing procrastination as a whole, in all areas of my life. I'm more and more confident that I can rise to the challenges life throws at me. I'm healthier.
When at home, I'm more motivated to help around the house, help with the evening chores, and in general remove the daily burdens of my wife. She can see from my actions that I am more and more healthy. Additionally I'm starting to work out more and more. This also is attractive to my wife.
The reason for the increase of marital romance is that I'm more and more lifting the burdens from off my sweet wife's back. I'm doing my part to make my wife, family, and home more and more orderly and presentable.
Simply put, I now clean the garage before I'm asked. Which allows my bride and I to spend more time relaxing with each other. We now have time to sit on the couch and watch a video....before I throw her on the bed.
